I found your post, Sister, very helpful.
I agree with you. My son shows many of the same attitudes as does RN's. He feels superior to other addicts, and does not believe treatment pertains to him.
It is easy for me to see that RN's son benefits from distance and having to work this out for himself. I believe as long as they stay in the picture, he will use his parents and use them to not take responsibility for himself and his choices.
It is harder to know about my son who is 27, and who has never demonstrated the capacity to live other than as a couch surfer or homeless. I think he uses marijuana because he has poor judgment. I do not think he is homeless or a coach surfer because he uses marijuana. I think my son is more limited than is RN's.
Thank you for your post.