Copa
Yes we pay for the sober living but he is working and doing his own thing at sober living. Doing just enough to get by which he feels is "doing good" and "that's all he needs" and yes if he doesn't shape up or pretend to (not what we want of course) he will probably be released by them. I have never insisted he go to NA or AA because he didn't feel that was for him and I honestly don't care what he has to do to be sober. I have left that up to the experts.
After today's call his dad told him we are holding car and school at bay right now. It's an old car but runs and it was to use to get to school. My husband is a lot tougher and less emotional (almost too much at times) than I am (and cheap! LOL) so I feel pretty good leaving the decisions up to him for now.
My son didn't call me back after he knew I talked to therapist and after he talked to his dad so he knows I'm upset.
