Hi wearyone, welcome to the forum, I just discovered your post. It brings a lot of memories back for me, we have had the same issue.
I am sorry for your reason to be here, it is hard when our adult d cs create this kind of hurt and drama.
You are not alone, you have landed at a good place.
I do not have time to write more, got to go to my sons practice, but I will write later on.
Others will come along and post.
I am sorry for your hurting heart.
(((HUGS)))
leafy