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Stealing - he's crossed a line and there's no going back
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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 412389" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>been there done that. As recently as this past Fall with difficult child 1. He stole my credit card out of my wallet and used it to pay for phone sex or whatever you want to call 1-800-Hoochie Girl, lol. I can laugh now, but I was equally devastated and enraged over the violation of trust, not to mention accessing the porn which he's been told time and again to stay away from.</p><p> </p><p>Before that, he's stolen cash from his dad, his sister, and possibly me as well. </p><p> </p><p>And I responded similarly. Total lockdown of all computer and phone privileges. Loss of treasured gameboy and Wii. Repayment of stolen funds. That was the punitive part.</p><p> </p><p>The corrective part started out with a therapist, but the real meat of it came from the psychiatrist and our reassessment of his medications. I have to say, since we changed medications and adjusted dosing, I have not caught him doing one illicit thing. He still has restrictions on his phone and the computer because in my opinion it hasn't been enough time for me to be convinced he's "cured." One day, when he needed my help to access a "blocked" (because of his restrictions) website, he complained about the fact that he had to go through this level of security -- and I reminded him of why. Then he said to me rather quietly, "Mom, I don't DO that stuff anymore."</p><p> </p><p>So, while you certainly MUST take steps to protect the rest of the family, and your feelings are more than justified, try not to lose sight of the fact that he still needs serious help and that it's possible one day he'll be able to be trusted again.</p><p> </p><p>(((HUgs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 412389, member: 3444"] been there done that. As recently as this past Fall with difficult child 1. He stole my credit card out of my wallet and used it to pay for phone sex or whatever you want to call 1-800-Hoochie Girl, lol. I can laugh now, but I was equally devastated and enraged over the violation of trust, not to mention accessing the porn which he's been told time and again to stay away from. Before that, he's stolen cash from his dad, his sister, and possibly me as well. And I responded similarly. Total lockdown of all computer and phone privileges. Loss of treasured gameboy and Wii. Repayment of stolen funds. That was the punitive part. The corrective part started out with a therapist, but the real meat of it came from the psychiatrist and our reassessment of his medications. I have to say, since we changed medications and adjusted dosing, I have not caught him doing one illicit thing. He still has restrictions on his phone and the computer because in my opinion it hasn't been enough time for me to be convinced he's "cured." One day, when he needed my help to access a "blocked" (because of his restrictions) website, he complained about the fact that he had to go through this level of security -- and I reminded him of why. Then he said to me rather quietly, "Mom, I don't DO that stuff anymore." So, while you certainly MUST take steps to protect the rest of the family, and your feelings are more than justified, try not to lose sight of the fact that he still needs serious help and that it's possible one day he'll be able to be trusted again. (((HUgs))) [/QUOTE]
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