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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 377407"><p>Oh I am so sorry to hear this. I can totally relate to what you are going through. We kicked out son out for 2 months, he went back to a program for 2 weeks and has made an effort so he is back home for now.... but the good thing is he knows if things get back againn we won't hesitate to kick him out. I don't think before we did it he ever thought we wool do it. Now he knows.</p><p></p><p>A couple thoughts. Have you or your wife been to counseling? I started going to counseling quite a while ago to help me to let go of control with my son. It was a huge help. Recently my husband has been coming with me some of the time. I am not sure if we would have gotten to the point of kicking my son out, or done it so calmly, or done it in synch with each each without the counseling. So one thought would be to explain to your wife where you are at and that you need to go to counseling together to figure out how to best handle your difficult child.</p><p></p><p>Ultimately you have to decide for yourself how much you can put up with, what you are willing to let go and what you are not. I know the feeling of thinking of leaving. In my situation I was clearer first and there were several times I thought if my husband gives in again then I am going to stay somewhere else for a while. Lucky for us it never actually came to that.</p><p></p><p>OK on the abusive boyfriend. I work in the area of domestic violence. This is very tricky. Has your difficult child always been a difficult child or did this start with the abusive boyfriend? In either case I am sure he is complicating the situation. Just like anything else ultimately she needs to make her choices. In my experience a woman does not leave an abusive relationship until she is ready. What truly helps though is knowing she has a support system out there if she does leave. Part of the abuse is the abusive partner doing things to isolate her from her friends and family. So she needs to know you love her and will be there for her.... at the same time you need to set limits of what you won' t put up with. Clearly lying and stealing are not things you want to put up with.</p><p></p><p>Let us know how it goes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 377407"] Oh I am so sorry to hear this. I can totally relate to what you are going through. We kicked out son out for 2 months, he went back to a program for 2 weeks and has made an effort so he is back home for now.... but the good thing is he knows if things get back againn we won't hesitate to kick him out. I don't think before we did it he ever thought we wool do it. Now he knows. A couple thoughts. Have you or your wife been to counseling? I started going to counseling quite a while ago to help me to let go of control with my son. It was a huge help. Recently my husband has been coming with me some of the time. I am not sure if we would have gotten to the point of kicking my son out, or done it so calmly, or done it in synch with each each without the counseling. So one thought would be to explain to your wife where you are at and that you need to go to counseling together to figure out how to best handle your difficult child. Ultimately you have to decide for yourself how much you can put up with, what you are willing to let go and what you are not. I know the feeling of thinking of leaving. In my situation I was clearer first and there were several times I thought if my husband gives in again then I am going to stay somewhere else for a while. Lucky for us it never actually came to that. OK on the abusive boyfriend. I work in the area of domestic violence. This is very tricky. Has your difficult child always been a difficult child or did this start with the abusive boyfriend? In either case I am sure he is complicating the situation. Just like anything else ultimately she needs to make her choices. In my experience a woman does not leave an abusive relationship until she is ready. What truly helps though is knowing she has a support system out there if she does leave. Part of the abuse is the abusive partner doing things to isolate her from her friends and family. So she needs to know you love her and will be there for her.... at the same time you need to set limits of what you won' t put up with. Clearly lying and stealing are not things you want to put up with. Let us know how it goes. [/QUOTE]
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