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<blockquote data-quote="JJJ" data-source="post: 251114" data-attributes="member: 1169"><p>Hi Michelle,</p><p></p><p>I see signs of hope. She is doing this in her room and alone in the bathroom. She has <em>some</em> control. That is good. Kansas City is probably a large enough city to have a Children's Hospital. They are likely your best source for a full multidisciplinary evaluation. Done correctly it will give you a more complete picture of what needs your SD has. (Cognitive delays, abuse issues, drug-exposure, medical illness, psychiatric illness, etc). Another source for a good sexual abuse counselor is your police department or the police department of the nearest big city - they usually have a list of counselors and can tell you which one specializes in child-victims.</p><p></p><p>I think you need to ignore the masturbating when she does it alone in her room. I know some religions teach that it is a sin but from a psychiatric/medical point of view, private masturbation is normal. Having the urge to do it at school is more concerning. </p><p></p><p>Therapists who are not trained in working with child sexual abuse victims can do more harm than good. I would strongly recommend you make the drive to get her to a specialist. It's only once a week and it would also create that "time to talk" that is so important to establish a bond between you and her. She needs to know that you are there for her and will keep her safe. Her last mother failed miserably. Don't talk about her issues - I think Hannah Montana and the Jonas Brothers are still the rage with that age group <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JJJ, post: 251114, member: 1169"] Hi Michelle, I see signs of hope. She is doing this in her room and alone in the bathroom. She has [I]some[/I] control. That is good. Kansas City is probably a large enough city to have a Children's Hospital. They are likely your best source for a full multidisciplinary evaluation. Done correctly it will give you a more complete picture of what needs your SD has. (Cognitive delays, abuse issues, drug-exposure, medical illness, psychiatric illness, etc). Another source for a good sexual abuse counselor is your police department or the police department of the nearest big city - they usually have a list of counselors and can tell you which one specializes in child-victims. I think you need to ignore the masturbating when she does it alone in her room. I know some religions teach that it is a sin but from a psychiatric/medical point of view, private masturbation is normal. Having the urge to do it at school is more concerning. Therapists who are not trained in working with child sexual abuse victims can do more harm than good. I would strongly recommend you make the drive to get her to a specialist. It's only once a week and it would also create that "time to talk" that is so important to establish a bond between you and her. She needs to know that you are there for her and will keep her safe. Her last mother failed miserably. Don't talk about her issues - I think Hannah Montana and the Jonas Brothers are still the rage with that age group :) [/QUOTE]
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