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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 251153" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Hi and Welcome Michelle!</p><p></p><p>I am very sorry you are so stressed. You will find this group to be very supportive and helpful. I know it helped me TONS when my son was at his worst. They even helped me find the RIGHT help for him, and for my other kids.</p><p></p><p>Call and make an appointment at one of the hospitals in KC for a visit with a psychiatrist and a psychologist who specialize in treating child victims of sexual abuse. This is NOT something you can avoid. The psychiatrist (called a psychiatrist here) is the one with the md and MUST be a board certified child and adolescent psychiatrist.</p><p></p><p>Children masturbate. As long as it is done in private is should not be a big issue. If she is taking a lot of time away from her classwork to do it then having someone escort her to the bathroom with a timer to give her 2 minutes in the stall should be helpful. I know that one elementary school my oldest was at did this with several kids. They didn't make a fuss or a big deal, the teacher or aide or office person just accompanied her and had a timer that made a ding loud enough for her to hear. Then they just need to say it is time to come out now. It will take some time to work, but it should.</p><p></p><p>I think having your step daughter sleep alone (with your daughter sleeping elsewhere) is a VERY good idea. Sadly, kids who have been abused sexually do often act it out with another child. This is a good way to keep everyone safe. If SD wanders in the night you might consider some inexpensive alarms to put across her doorway. there are some that activate if the door is opened - when we used these we had them on the outside of the doorframe so if we had to go in we could turn them off. Another parent here uses motion alarms from Radio Shack. One near the floor and one on a table so they can't be gone under or over.</p><p></p><p>Many of us have had good results using the techniques in "the Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. It is not expensive and should also be available at the library. Personally I also have had great luck with the Love and Logic books (mostly because they made sense to my hubby, so we could be on the same page, LOL!). You can explore those at <a href="http://www.loveandlogic.com" target="_blank">www.loveandlogic.com</a> . They have a fairly new book out for working iwth children with special needs.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, when you see the doctor you need to insist on either a neuropsychologist exam OR a multidisciplinary evaluation. If you suspect problems from drug use during pregnancy, you might consider a developmental pediatrician instead of a psychiatrist. dev peds are psychiatrists with special training in child development.</p><p></p><p>Well, this is quite the book. Hope it wasn't too much info. I do want to recommend you go over to the FAQ part of the forum. It will answer a LOT of qustions, esp about the abbreviations and things.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 251153, member: 1233"] Hi and Welcome Michelle! I am very sorry you are so stressed. You will find this group to be very supportive and helpful. I know it helped me TONS when my son was at his worst. They even helped me find the RIGHT help for him, and for my other kids. Call and make an appointment at one of the hospitals in KC for a visit with a psychiatrist and a psychologist who specialize in treating child victims of sexual abuse. This is NOT something you can avoid. The psychiatrist (called a psychiatrist here) is the one with the md and MUST be a board certified child and adolescent psychiatrist. Children masturbate. As long as it is done in private is should not be a big issue. If she is taking a lot of time away from her classwork to do it then having someone escort her to the bathroom with a timer to give her 2 minutes in the stall should be helpful. I know that one elementary school my oldest was at did this with several kids. They didn't make a fuss or a big deal, the teacher or aide or office person just accompanied her and had a timer that made a ding loud enough for her to hear. Then they just need to say it is time to come out now. It will take some time to work, but it should. I think having your step daughter sleep alone (with your daughter sleeping elsewhere) is a VERY good idea. Sadly, kids who have been abused sexually do often act it out with another child. This is a good way to keep everyone safe. If SD wanders in the night you might consider some inexpensive alarms to put across her doorway. there are some that activate if the door is opened - when we used these we had them on the outside of the doorframe so if we had to go in we could turn them off. Another parent here uses motion alarms from Radio Shack. One near the floor and one on a table so they can't be gone under or over. Many of us have had good results using the techniques in "the Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. It is not expensive and should also be available at the library. Personally I also have had great luck with the Love and Logic books (mostly because they made sense to my hubby, so we could be on the same page, LOL!). You can explore those at [url]www.loveandlogic.com[/url] . They have a fairly new book out for working iwth children with special needs. Anyway, when you see the doctor you need to insist on either a neuropsychologist exam OR a multidisciplinary evaluation. If you suspect problems from drug use during pregnancy, you might consider a developmental pediatrician instead of a psychiatrist. dev peds are psychiatrists with special training in child development. Well, this is quite the book. Hope it wasn't too much info. I do want to recommend you go over to the FAQ part of the forum. It will answer a LOT of qustions, esp about the abbreviations and things. [/QUOTE]
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