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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 411926" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>Welcome... I too would like to know why a lock is not permissible.</p><p> </p><p>In my case, my stepson does NOT have a lock on his bedroom door, because then Onyxx would lock herself in there. However, any money he earns, or anything valuable, we lock in a safe in our room. Because... This has been going on for <em>years</em>.</p><p> </p><p>My home has been on lockdown for a long, long time. I have food and drink in my room - down to a refrigerator, too. We have a lock on our bedroom door (and this one is a good one... Last one, not so much). Money is ALWAYS on our person or locked up. We do not leave the bedroom unlocked even if we are "just running upstairs" anymore.</p><p> </p><p>There may be a good reason for her thievery. I don't pretend to know it... But... Do she and her brother see/spend time with their bio dad? Are there any issues there? Honestly... She may not even know why she is doing it, hence the blank looks. She may resent you. She may resent Mom. There are so many possibilities, and these are minor ones.</p><p> </p><p>If the circumstances surrounding her bio parents' split were at all tumultuous, that could have a LOT to do with it. For years, my Onyxx would do ANYTHING in the world to make Mommy love her. She destroyed so much property, stole so much... I can't even begin to tell you. Right at 2 years ago, she had a lightning-bolt moment, realized what was <em>really</em> going on with Mommy... And it's not as bad as it was (worse in different ways), but the emotional damage is pretty severe - and we are still working with it. In the meantime, we're on lockdown.</p><p> </p><p>Other people who may know more are here, too. In the meantime - please, please keep in mind - this is not your child. Her mother needs to be the one to discipline. The problem here is that you really don't have many legal rights in this situation. Frustrating, I know - but you should not be disciplining at this point.</p><p> </p><p>...One more question? Do you have custody of your son? May or may not have any bearing at all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 411926, member: 6705"] Welcome... I too would like to know why a lock is not permissible. In my case, my stepson does NOT have a lock on his bedroom door, because then Onyxx would lock herself in there. However, any money he earns, or anything valuable, we lock in a safe in our room. Because... This has been going on for [I]years[/I]. My home has been on lockdown for a long, long time. I have food and drink in my room - down to a refrigerator, too. We have a lock on our bedroom door (and this one is a good one... Last one, not so much). Money is ALWAYS on our person or locked up. We do not leave the bedroom unlocked even if we are "just running upstairs" anymore. There may be a good reason for her thievery. I don't pretend to know it... But... Do she and her brother see/spend time with their bio dad? Are there any issues there? Honestly... She may not even know why she is doing it, hence the blank looks. She may resent you. She may resent Mom. There are so many possibilities, and these are minor ones. If the circumstances surrounding her bio parents' split were at all tumultuous, that could have a LOT to do with it. For years, my Onyxx would do ANYTHING in the world to make Mommy love her. She destroyed so much property, stole so much... I can't even begin to tell you. Right at 2 years ago, she had a lightning-bolt moment, realized what was [I]really[/I] going on with Mommy... And it's not as bad as it was (worse in different ways), but the emotional damage is pretty severe - and we are still working with it. In the meantime, we're on lockdown. Other people who may know more are here, too. In the meantime - please, please keep in mind - this is not your child. Her mother needs to be the one to discipline. The problem here is that you really don't have many legal rights in this situation. Frustrating, I know - but you should not be disciplining at this point. ...One more question? Do you have custody of your son? May or may not have any bearing at all. [/QUOTE]
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