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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 341296" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I found that the attachment between daughters and birth Moms can cause all kinds of issues. The Mother of my step children is not a bad person but she was "joined at the hip" with her eldest daughter. Even though BM was the one who initiated the divorce (six years before husband and I met, by the way) she somehow resented that her Ex was happily married to me and lived a nice life with our family. The other two kids accepted me and we quickly learned to genuinely love one another. The eldest, after almost 34 years, still competes for her Dad's attention. Weird..but true! by the way, she also is not a bad person...just territorial.</p><p> </p><p>Trying to spend one on one time with your SD is a positive action. If it does not turn out well, however, I "think" I might say to husband "perhaps when the kids come to visit you, maybe it would be nice for you three to have the house to yourself for the day". Mind you I did say "think", lol. If your husband has both of his kids alone he would have to include the younger child. Your concern for the 8 yr. old is valid. Being left out is painful even if you do get along with your step family. Perhaps that would make the point and then all of you can share dinner and the evening as a combined family unit. Good luck. I know from experience it is frustrating. Hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 341296, member: 35"] I found that the attachment between daughters and birth Moms can cause all kinds of issues. The Mother of my step children is not a bad person but she was "joined at the hip" with her eldest daughter. Even though BM was the one who initiated the divorce (six years before husband and I met, by the way) she somehow resented that her Ex was happily married to me and lived a nice life with our family. The other two kids accepted me and we quickly learned to genuinely love one another. The eldest, after almost 34 years, still competes for her Dad's attention. Weird..but true! by the way, she also is not a bad person...just territorial. Trying to spend one on one time with your SD is a positive action. If it does not turn out well, however, I "think" I might say to husband "perhaps when the kids come to visit you, maybe it would be nice for you three to have the house to yourself for the day". Mind you I did say "think", lol. If your husband has both of his kids alone he would have to include the younger child. Your concern for the 8 yr. old is valid. Being left out is painful even if you do get along with your step family. Perhaps that would make the point and then all of you can share dinner and the evening as a combined family unit. Good luck. I know from experience it is frustrating. Hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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