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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 351221" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I can tell you from personal experience that marg's method in this works. My aunt, M, was the ex. Her husband, father of my cousin, was a passive-aggressive, immature idiot, we will call him A. After many times of having visits cancelled or cut very short because of the "new wife" excuse, my aunt called and invited her out for coffee. NOT on either of their turf's. My aunt learned that the new wife, R, thought that she (M) was a vindictive, money-grubbing witch. ALL because A said so. R learned that M thought that she (R) wanted to keep A from paying support or having ANY relationship with my cousin. R learned that in reality M had cut the child support to less than 1/2 of what the court ordered because A said that he couldn't afford it because R spent too much. R also learned that A used her as an excuse to not see his son, and that A has sent a school photo of my cousin back to my cousin - torn up inside the valentine that my cousin sent with a note signed by R to not send anything to A again!! A said R was mad because he didn't get a bigger photo, or that was what he told M. A larger photo had arrived the day BEFORE the valentine came and R had no idea that the photo and valentine had even come. She did NOT send it, though A said she did.</p><p></p><p>If you can get the ex to sit down with you it will be in the best interests of your step child. I know you don't like her actions, but they may largely be the result of your husband's parenting, or lack thereof. If you can do this it will also be in your son's best interest, because you may learn how to help your husband either get off your back or step up and become a real parent to his own child and a good stepparent to your child.</p><p></p><p>Lots of hugs,</p><p></p><p>Susie</p><p></p><p>ps. This thread is really long. Would it be possible to start a new thread? We usually do not keep threads going this long. Each new occurrence usually is the start of a new thread, or at least we group those of a few days' time into one thread. Not meaning to be picky, it is just hard to keep track in a thread this long. Thanks!<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 351221, member: 1233"] I can tell you from personal experience that marg's method in this works. My aunt, M, was the ex. Her husband, father of my cousin, was a passive-aggressive, immature idiot, we will call him A. After many times of having visits cancelled or cut very short because of the "new wife" excuse, my aunt called and invited her out for coffee. NOT on either of their turf's. My aunt learned that the new wife, R, thought that she (M) was a vindictive, money-grubbing witch. ALL because A said so. R learned that M thought that she (R) wanted to keep A from paying support or having ANY relationship with my cousin. R learned that in reality M had cut the child support to less than 1/2 of what the court ordered because A said that he couldn't afford it because R spent too much. R also learned that A used her as an excuse to not see his son, and that A has sent a school photo of my cousin back to my cousin - torn up inside the valentine that my cousin sent with a note signed by R to not send anything to A again!! A said R was mad because he didn't get a bigger photo, or that was what he told M. A larger photo had arrived the day BEFORE the valentine came and R had no idea that the photo and valentine had even come. She did NOT send it, though A said she did. If you can get the ex to sit down with you it will be in the best interests of your step child. I know you don't like her actions, but they may largely be the result of your husband's parenting, or lack thereof. If you can do this it will also be in your son's best interest, because you may learn how to help your husband either get off your back or step up and become a real parent to his own child and a good stepparent to your child. Lots of hugs, Susie ps. This thread is really long. Would it be possible to start a new thread? We usually do not keep threads going this long. Each new occurrence usually is the start of a new thread, or at least we group those of a few days' time into one thread. Not meaning to be picky, it is just hard to keep track in a thread this long. Thanks!:winking: [/QUOTE]
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