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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 352846" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>He has no right to be mad at you. But by reacting to him (as if his being mad at you is anything unusual or a concern - really, why should you take on board his bad behaviour? It should be so commonplace as to be laughable) you are actually giving his tempera tantrum more validity than it deserves.</p><p></p><p>Rather then get mad back (although you are entitled) it is better to stay calm and point out that if he wants HIS kids to be involved, it is a WONDERFUL idea for them to have a parent to do it for them, and it is really great that he has shown an interest in this; so he should have HIS name down there. I strongly suggest you either put his name down, or calmly tell him to put his own name down as he IS the bio-parent, plus you will be at work that night and SOMEONE has to bring in a wage...</p><p></p><p>Do your best to not sound sarcastic.</p><p></p><p>Really - he's been getting away with salami tactics for so long, that he feels he can pull a stunt like this and then get angry when his plans don't pan out.</p><p></p><p>You really need to have a written contract with him, and I think you are going to need professional help to get it worked out. You both would need to stick to that contract and it would have to cover areas of responsibility, each for your own children. </p><p></p><p>My concern about this now - frankly, I think he's past caring about your relationship. Either that, or he married you fully expecting you to be a replacement mother for his kids, an unpaid nanny/housekeeper/sex slave. And you're not doing what he wants you to do.</p><p></p><p>I really feel sorry for his first wife, as well as for you.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 352846, member: 1991"] He has no right to be mad at you. But by reacting to him (as if his being mad at you is anything unusual or a concern - really, why should you take on board his bad behaviour? It should be so commonplace as to be laughable) you are actually giving his tempera tantrum more validity than it deserves. Rather then get mad back (although you are entitled) it is better to stay calm and point out that if he wants HIS kids to be involved, it is a WONDERFUL idea for them to have a parent to do it for them, and it is really great that he has shown an interest in this; so he should have HIS name down there. I strongly suggest you either put his name down, or calmly tell him to put his own name down as he IS the bio-parent, plus you will be at work that night and SOMEONE has to bring in a wage... Do your best to not sound sarcastic. Really - he's been getting away with salami tactics for so long, that he feels he can pull a stunt like this and then get angry when his plans don't pan out. You really need to have a written contract with him, and I think you are going to need professional help to get it worked out. You both would need to stick to that contract and it would have to cover areas of responsibility, each for your own children. My concern about this now - frankly, I think he's past caring about your relationship. Either that, or he married you fully expecting you to be a replacement mother for his kids, an unpaid nanny/housekeeper/sex slave. And you're not doing what he wants you to do. I really feel sorry for his first wife, as well as for you. Marg [/QUOTE]
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