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<blockquote data-quote="nlj" data-source="post: 630412" data-attributes="member: 17650"><p>It sounds as though you have tolerated a lot of negativity for a long time and you have tried to remedy this situation. It's very difficult if it is your husband's money that he is giving her. If it is joint family income do you have the power to veto this?</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Is there a family member who would speak to your husband and try and get him to understand the danger and inappropriateness of his behaviour? Someone 'on your side' who will tell him again those things that he doesn't want to hear?</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. It sounds as though you want to save your marriage if possible. He needs some straight talking from you and a jolt to change his priorities and make him see that there are other things in his life that he is putting at risk. I am glad that you are continuing to go to counselling and have some support. Maybe you should stop being 'nice' and be a bit more assertive and even aggressive. Men don't get it unless we find a bit of ooomphh and tell it like it is and stop tolerating things for the sake of a quiet life (which you haven't got anyway).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nlj, post: 630412, member: 17650"] It sounds as though you have tolerated a lot of negativity for a long time and you have tried to remedy this situation. It's very difficult if it is your husband's money that he is giving her. If it is joint family income do you have the power to veto this? Is there a family member who would speak to your husband and try and get him to understand the danger and inappropriateness of his behaviour? Someone 'on your side' who will tell him again those things that he doesn't want to hear? I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. It sounds as though you want to save your marriage if possible. He needs some straight talking from you and a jolt to change his priorities and make him see that there are other things in his life that he is putting at risk. I am glad that you are continuing to go to counselling and have some support. Maybe you should stop being 'nice' and be a bit more assertive and even aggressive. Men don't get it unless we find a bit of ooomphh and tell it like it is and stop tolerating things for the sake of a quiet life (which you haven't got anyway). [/QUOTE]
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