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Stepping back - Am I getting the big picture..
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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 303014" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Here is my theory. And I have so been in your shoes many times unfortunately.</p><p></p><p>I am not a probation officer. I dont get paid to be a probation officer. I also wont lie to a cop or a probation officer. I wont call them to report something that my kid is doing wrong on probation unless it concerns me or is some other crime of major proportion but I am not going to do their job for them. If they want to know if he is home on time, they need to check up on him or ask him or something. If they ask me, I will tell them. </p><p></p><p>My son was on house arrest at one point. I always told them the truth when he was here even when the power went out and he could have left. He was here. They came, they checked, found out we didnt lie...they learned to trust us. </p><p></p><p>When my son ended up on intensive probation, he had a really early curfew. He had to be in the house at 7 pm. His PO was here many a night at 7:05. He would call my house from the end of my driveway and ask me if Cory was here just to see if I would lie for him. I never did. One time Cory was late getting home from work and I told the guy he wasnt home yet when he called. I had already called his cell though and left a message that Cory was going to be late because the car broke down! We were honest with him and now this guy is in Corys corner. </p><p></p><p>With your situation, I think you need to decide if your son is willing to stop this breaking curfew. How long is his jail time he is facing? If he keeps up this behavior, it wont be long till they catch him out after curfew anyway and he will end up in trouble anyway.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 303014, member: 1514"] Here is my theory. And I have so been in your shoes many times unfortunately. I am not a probation officer. I dont get paid to be a probation officer. I also wont lie to a cop or a probation officer. I wont call them to report something that my kid is doing wrong on probation unless it concerns me or is some other crime of major proportion but I am not going to do their job for them. If they want to know if he is home on time, they need to check up on him or ask him or something. If they ask me, I will tell them. My son was on house arrest at one point. I always told them the truth when he was here even when the power went out and he could have left. He was here. They came, they checked, found out we didnt lie...they learned to trust us. When my son ended up on intensive probation, he had a really early curfew. He had to be in the house at 7 pm. His PO was here many a night at 7:05. He would call my house from the end of my driveway and ask me if Cory was here just to see if I would lie for him. I never did. One time Cory was late getting home from work and I told the guy he wasnt home yet when he called. I had already called his cell though and left a message that Cory was going to be late because the car broke down! We were honest with him and now this guy is in Corys corner. With your situation, I think you need to decide if your son is willing to stop this breaking curfew. How long is his jail time he is facing? If he keeps up this behavior, it wont be long till they catch him out after curfew anyway and he will end up in trouble anyway. [/QUOTE]
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