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Stepson's Residential Treatment Center (RTC) Closing... options? coming home possibility?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 269064" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>This is my opinion based on a horrendous experience in our home with a foster child that we adopted at age 11. We learned that some kids can't be saved and they can hurt other kids.</p><p></p><p>If you bring him home, assume he molested your son. Treat the move as if you have a sexual predator at home because you probably do. Kids don't lie about that, but they DO tend to minimize it. Your SS may have done a lot more to your son than just touching him, especially with SS's history of sexual abuse. I'd make sure he was never alone with C EVER and put an alarm on E's door at night (and maybe C's too). We were told to put a videocamera in the rooms as well if we wanted to bring our son back home, but we decided not to take the risk. We never saw him after we called CPS. It turned out that he had abused our younger kids for three years and we hadn't known and they had been too scared of him to tell us--he said he'd burn the house down and kill everyone and they believed him. You really need a special type of therapist to work with your son. If he was molested, it needs to be addressed or it will likely affect him later on in a very negative way.</p><p>Although I agree that therapeutic foster care is a joke (we did it, but we got no training for it and quit), I don't know if I'd feel comfortable having him come home. If you do, you certainly should have a safety plan in place.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 269064, member: 1550"] This is my opinion based on a horrendous experience in our home with a foster child that we adopted at age 11. We learned that some kids can't be saved and they can hurt other kids. If you bring him home, assume he molested your son. Treat the move as if you have a sexual predator at home because you probably do. Kids don't lie about that, but they DO tend to minimize it. Your SS may have done a lot more to your son than just touching him, especially with SS's history of sexual abuse. I'd make sure he was never alone with C EVER and put an alarm on E's door at night (and maybe C's too). We were told to put a videocamera in the rooms as well if we wanted to bring our son back home, but we decided not to take the risk. We never saw him after we called CPS. It turned out that he had abused our younger kids for three years and we hadn't known and they had been too scared of him to tell us--he said he'd burn the house down and kill everyone and they believed him. You really need a special type of therapist to work with your son. If he was molested, it needs to be addressed or it will likely affect him later on in a very negative way. Although I agree that therapeutic foster care is a joke (we did it, but we got no training for it and quit), I don't know if I'd feel comfortable having him come home. If you do, you certainly should have a safety plan in place. [/QUOTE]
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