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<blockquote data-quote="WiseChoices" data-source="post: 754317" data-attributes="member: 24254"><p>As I struggled with my Difficult Child, I realized I had already lost her .Accepting anything less than respect, giving without anything in return, being viewed like a villain while housing and feeding her all meant I had already lost the relationship. Because I cannot stay in a " relationship" like this without losing myself. I am treating myself with disrespect, with disdain, and with contempt if I allow this treatment one more minute . Why would I want this to continue? Anything worth holding onto has been lost already. </p><p></p><p>We put our foot down and we put it down hard . We knocked that overgrowth of ego down several notches. And the miracle of it is that it worked. We started to get respect, and cooperation. Now I have hope .</p><p></p><p>I think fear of losing a relationship is an indication of enmeshment. We are so much stronger than we think we are. I have to practice self respect because NOBODY will respect me if I don't show that I respect myself. If I lose me, I have nothing. For me it's about my relationship with my Higher Power, realizing I get everything I need from my HP, and then my relationship with myself. It's the most important relationship in my life because I will be with myself the longest.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WiseChoices, post: 754317, member: 24254"] As I struggled with my Difficult Child, I realized I had already lost her .Accepting anything less than respect, giving without anything in return, being viewed like a villain while housing and feeding her all meant I had already lost the relationship. Because I cannot stay in a " relationship" like this without losing myself. I am treating myself with disrespect, with disdain, and with contempt if I allow this treatment one more minute . Why would I want this to continue? Anything worth holding onto has been lost already. We put our foot down and we put it down hard . We knocked that overgrowth of ego down several notches. And the miracle of it is that it worked. We started to get respect, and cooperation. Now I have hope . I think fear of losing a relationship is an indication of enmeshment. We are so much stronger than we think we are. I have to practice self respect because NOBODY will respect me if I don't show that I respect myself. If I lose me, I have nothing. For me it's about my relationship with my Higher Power, realizing I get everything I need from my HP, and then my relationship with myself. It's the most important relationship in my life because I will be with myself the longest. [/QUOTE]
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