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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 550132" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>I think we need to get mad before we can detach and set our boundaries on what we will and will not accept and how far we will extend ourselves in the future. Anger was a tough emotion for me to get through. It was so close to the surface and I just wanted to somehow release it so I could move on. I am chairing several upcoming meetings in my support group andf I picked the topic of anger as one that I wanted to cover because it was such a big part of my detachment.</p><p></p><p>I'm angry for you TL. He really did not give any consideration to the fact that you just paid for another month and you are right on that you were the one taking the risk, not him. He knows how you worry about him and yet he doesn't contact you to let you know he is ok. But he sure knows how to get you when he needs something.</p><p></p><p>It does sound like you are accepting that it is what it is and that you know you have done all you can. Our difficult child's are living their lives the way they want to at the moment. I have accepted that with my difficult child, it helps to quiet the panic I feel when I think of what she is doing and her future. I too have to stay far away from the shoulda coulda thoughts.</p><p></p><p>Take care of yourself, you deserve to have peace in your life.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 550132, member: 59"] I think we need to get mad before we can detach and set our boundaries on what we will and will not accept and how far we will extend ourselves in the future. Anger was a tough emotion for me to get through. It was so close to the surface and I just wanted to somehow release it so I could move on. I am chairing several upcoming meetings in my support group andf I picked the topic of anger as one that I wanted to cover because it was such a big part of my detachment. I'm angry for you TL. He really did not give any consideration to the fact that you just paid for another month and you are right on that you were the one taking the risk, not him. He knows how you worry about him and yet he doesn't contact you to let you know he is ok. But he sure knows how to get you when he needs something. It does sound like you are accepting that it is what it is and that you know you have done all you can. Our difficult child's are living their lives the way they want to at the moment. I have accepted that with my difficult child, it helps to quiet the panic I feel when I think of what she is doing and her future. I too have to stay far away from the shoulda coulda thoughts. Take care of yourself, you deserve to have peace in your life. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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