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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 649800" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Psychiatric problems and neurological disorders ARE physical conditions. She could have autistic spectrum disorder...that would fit with obsessions and isolation and poor hygiene, for example. That requires interventions, but is not a behavioral disorder. It is a neurological difference that needs treatment, but t he child is probably never going to act just like "typical" children. It could be bipolar or severe depression or secret drug use or a little of a few. Almost all behavior problems are mired with physical differences. Our kids are wired differently.</p><p></p><p>An Residential Treatment Center (RTC) may or may not help. I've known many kids who went to RTCs and the jury is out. They are a good holding place for a child who can't live at home because he/she is too dangerous or is doing drugs or runs away. But there is no easy fixes. I've heard of better results, at least short term, with teenage boarding schools. Again, though, you have to diagnose your child and have the problem treated. It is complicated with our differently wired children than our typical children. They do not think like we do.</p><p></p><p>Just hang in there. Likely you should take good care of yourself and learn to detach with love as often this is for the long term. Again, a residential treatment center should not be used as a punishment because a child does not behave the way you want her to. It's not going to work if either she or you see it as anything other than a place for help and if you don't see your child improving, you may have to look for other options/places. There is no easy way to solve our types of children.</p><p></p><p>A parent should never say, "If you don't act the way we want, you are going to a residential treatment center to learn how good you have it at home." That sets the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) up as a jail, not a treatment center and it is usually the last resort when a child needs help desperately and the family can no live with the child at home anymore. But it's not like juvie hall. Still...they do have an isolation room where your kid can be locked up in a windowless room with nothing to do and only a thin mattress on the floor and it can be traumatic. I know some kids have been locked in them for days, and feel the doctors used them almost sadistically. I did foster care and am not unacquainted with RTCs. Some methods horrified me. Be sure you ask about all this. Ask if they call you if your child is put into Isolation. Hopefully they will say, "We don't do that anymore." And I hope they don't.</p><p></p><p>That is one punishment I think is total abuse and should be banned. It doesn't teach the child to behave. It makes the child afraid of it, but once he/she is out it can have lead to even more anger. Make sure the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) does not use this method or your daughter could end up in there and worse off for it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 649800, member: 1550"] Psychiatric problems and neurological disorders ARE physical conditions. She could have autistic spectrum disorder...that would fit with obsessions and isolation and poor hygiene, for example. That requires interventions, but is not a behavioral disorder. It is a neurological difference that needs treatment, but t he child is probably never going to act just like "typical" children. It could be bipolar or severe depression or secret drug use or a little of a few. Almost all behavior problems are mired with physical differences. Our kids are wired differently. An Residential Treatment Center (RTC) may or may not help. I've known many kids who went to RTCs and the jury is out. They are a good holding place for a child who can't live at home because he/she is too dangerous or is doing drugs or runs away. But there is no easy fixes. I've heard of better results, at least short term, with teenage boarding schools. Again, though, you have to diagnose your child and have the problem treated. It is complicated with our differently wired children than our typical children. They do not think like we do. Just hang in there. Likely you should take good care of yourself and learn to detach with love as often this is for the long term. Again, a residential treatment center should not be used as a punishment because a child does not behave the way you want her to. It's not going to work if either she or you see it as anything other than a place for help and if you don't see your child improving, you may have to look for other options/places. There is no easy way to solve our types of children. A parent should never say, "If you don't act the way we want, you are going to a residential treatment center to learn how good you have it at home." That sets the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) up as a jail, not a treatment center and it is usually the last resort when a child needs help desperately and the family can no live with the child at home anymore. But it's not like juvie hall. Still...they do have an isolation room where your kid can be locked up in a windowless room with nothing to do and only a thin mattress on the floor and it can be traumatic. I know some kids have been locked in them for days, and feel the doctors used them almost sadistically. I did foster care and am not unacquainted with RTCs. Some methods horrified me. Be sure you ask about all this. Ask if they call you if your child is put into Isolation. Hopefully they will say, "We don't do that anymore." And I hope they don't. That is one punishment I think is total abuse and should be banned. It doesn't teach the child to behave. It makes the child afraid of it, but once he/she is out it can have lead to even more anger. Make sure the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) does not use this method or your daughter could end up in there and worse off for it. [/QUOTE]
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