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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 650575" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>There were always kids who were socially awkward and did not feel comfortable with other people. There are plenty of adults like that. You certainly won't find me at a party in the center of things. If I have to go to a party, I am hiding in the john with a book. I don't think that's abnormal. There are introverts and extroverts.</p><p></p><p>However, sometimes kids and adults with certain disorders CAN NOT socialize. I don't think the fault is that of the computer. I think if there were no computers the kid would still be hiding in her room. I did. As a teen I did not want to be with my family. I didn't like them (with good reason) especially my mom. And I was not particularly social so I spent a lot of time alone. Had there been a computer option, who know? The approach taken at the residentials I have seen would never have worked out for me, personally. I did not always obey and I did not engage with my family. But putting me in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) would have just made me angrier and more defiant. All kids are different. One size doesn't fit all. From what I saw, which was two residentials where kids were literally tackled and put into isolation rooms, I would have maybe become suicidal and felt helpless and gotten worse. I was appalled at what I saw inside the residentials when my foster care kids were there. I really tried hard to get their social workers to take them out.</p><p></p><p>To me, it was abuse. Of course, I did not see EVERY residential treatment center, just two. But I don't like the point system and I don't like cutting the kids off from family for a certain amount of time. What if something abusive is going on and the kid can't talk to his family? I don't like the idea of isolation and/or secrecy. I'm glad I was not faced with that level of disruption before my kids were eighteen. </p><p></p><p>I believe residential is most appropriate for kids who are too dangerous to live at home. We really don't have any other options and some kids plain hurt, sexually abuse or try to kill other kids and/or animals or both. That is how bad it would be before I'd put one of my kids into an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I wouldn't do it for disobedience...and I didn't do it for disobedience...and it's not like I had no disobedience...ha ha. There was Bart...</p><p></p><p>I really don't know that this kid is so bad the level of residential is going to help. In fact, residential is pretty intimidating with no real statistical proof that it help. This is why I believe kids underage have the right of refusal. However, since it will probably happen, I hope all goes well for the entire family.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 650575, member: 1550"] There were always kids who were socially awkward and did not feel comfortable with other people. There are plenty of adults like that. You certainly won't find me at a party in the center of things. If I have to go to a party, I am hiding in the john with a book. I don't think that's abnormal. There are introverts and extroverts. However, sometimes kids and adults with certain disorders CAN NOT socialize. I don't think the fault is that of the computer. I think if there were no computers the kid would still be hiding in her room. I did. As a teen I did not want to be with my family. I didn't like them (with good reason) especially my mom. And I was not particularly social so I spent a lot of time alone. Had there been a computer option, who know? The approach taken at the residentials I have seen would never have worked out for me, personally. I did not always obey and I did not engage with my family. But putting me in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) would have just made me angrier and more defiant. All kids are different. One size doesn't fit all. From what I saw, which was two residentials where kids were literally tackled and put into isolation rooms, I would have maybe become suicidal and felt helpless and gotten worse. I was appalled at what I saw inside the residentials when my foster care kids were there. I really tried hard to get their social workers to take them out. To me, it was abuse. Of course, I did not see EVERY residential treatment center, just two. But I don't like the point system and I don't like cutting the kids off from family for a certain amount of time. What if something abusive is going on and the kid can't talk to his family? I don't like the idea of isolation and/or secrecy. I'm glad I was not faced with that level of disruption before my kids were eighteen. I believe residential is most appropriate for kids who are too dangerous to live at home. We really don't have any other options and some kids plain hurt, sexually abuse or try to kill other kids and/or animals or both. That is how bad it would be before I'd put one of my kids into an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I wouldn't do it for disobedience...and I didn't do it for disobedience...and it's not like I had no disobedience...ha ha. There was Bart... I really don't know that this kid is so bad the level of residential is going to help. In fact, residential is pretty intimidating with no real statistical proof that it help. This is why I believe kids underage have the right of refusal. However, since it will probably happen, I hope all goes well for the entire family. [/QUOTE]
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