LOVE this topic! I'm trying a new plan based on what is being used at the Y. We're (yes, everyone in the family) getting "chips" for doing the good stuff. Being nice, doing good deeds, going the extra mile, or to start, even following through on what you're supposed to do. My difficult child has a lot of trouble organizing and keeping track of his tasks, so each day that he remembers his homework or to write down his assignments etc, he gets a "chip". At the end of the week, if enough are earned he'll be allowed to do something he wants the next week (for him, things like going to varsity soccer games to ball boy are big incentives, so I try to keep it low/no cost).
We're still in the infancy of this at home, but so far it seems to work pretty well. We've always had a real struggle with the lack of responsibility and lack of remourse, hopefully, the visual reward for doing the right thing will work better?!?
