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Stressed X 10 and my mom is making it worse!
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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 550807"><p>I have been listening to my mom's constant criticism of EVERYTHING I do being wrong, especially raising my kids. Over a year ago, I finally had enough and told her that she can think what she wants but that I don't have to listen to it and I quit talking to her for over 4 months. The only reason I started talking to her at all was because difficult child 1 ended up in the psychiatric hospital for the first time and my sister convinced me to at least tell my mom what was going on. THAT is when my mom finally realized that there was nothing I could have done differently and she started treating me with at least a little respect. I still limit my contact with her but I have the line drawn when it comes to my parenting. The minute she crosses that line, and she has, I either hang up or leave, depending on if it's phone or in-person contact. It's taken a lot of courage for me to do that but I am very proud of myself for finally growing a backbone. Mother or not, she did her job raising me and now it's MY turn to raise MY kids.</p><p></p><p>I know it's hard and many exes will ALWAYS blame "imperfections" on the other parent. That way they don't have to accept responsibility and they can also deny that their "genetic contribution" may have been "faulty". I really hope you are able to find a good therapist for yourself. I have been where you are (minus the ex which my mom more than made up for) and it is VERY hard, especially when they have a good side too.</p><p></p><p>Sorry your week-end plans got ruined. Hopefully you can find SOME time for yourself in there somewhere. {{{{HUGS}}}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 550807"] I have been listening to my mom's constant criticism of EVERYTHING I do being wrong, especially raising my kids. Over a year ago, I finally had enough and told her that she can think what she wants but that I don't have to listen to it and I quit talking to her for over 4 months. The only reason I started talking to her at all was because difficult child 1 ended up in the psychiatric hospital for the first time and my sister convinced me to at least tell my mom what was going on. THAT is when my mom finally realized that there was nothing I could have done differently and she started treating me with at least a little respect. I still limit my contact with her but I have the line drawn when it comes to my parenting. The minute she crosses that line, and she has, I either hang up or leave, depending on if it's phone or in-person contact. It's taken a lot of courage for me to do that but I am very proud of myself for finally growing a backbone. Mother or not, she did her job raising me and now it's MY turn to raise MY kids. I know it's hard and many exes will ALWAYS blame "imperfections" on the other parent. That way they don't have to accept responsibility and they can also deny that their "genetic contribution" may have been "faulty". I really hope you are able to find a good therapist for yourself. I have been where you are (minus the ex which my mom more than made up for) and it is VERY hard, especially when they have a good side too. Sorry your week-end plans got ruined. Hopefully you can find SOME time for yourself in there somewhere. {{{{HUGS}}}} [/QUOTE]
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