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Stressed X 10 and my mom is making it worse!
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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 550825" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Oh gosh I'm so sorry you got dumped on. Yes ...I think its time to set limits with mom. Write it out if you need to keep on track. Explain that you value her support and encouragement but you have too much on your plate to deal with unsolicited "advice ". Let her know you have the same concerns for your kids but will be handling it as recommended by her team of professionals and in a way that works for your family. The reality is your daughter is too big to force the issue. She may respond to a reward temporarily but as with most of our kids when the novelty of that wears off they often still won't do the preferred behavior unless it's meaningful to them (having an issue with retainers here, sigh ) . Wish I could pipe music to your ears when conversations take that kind of turn. Maybe you can work out a signal with your mom that will remind her to stop. Is she still attending school meetings etc ( she did that right? ) it's maybe time to end all of that. It's kind of a mixed message to have her be involved to that degree but then not give other opinions. Most of us could do it but she seems too enmeshed. She might actually grow to enjoy a new role as a grandma and not so much of a mommy role. So hard to change long established patterns so I know it is easier to say. Hugs ....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 550825, member: 12886"] Oh gosh I'm so sorry you got dumped on. Yes ...I think its time to set limits with mom. Write it out if you need to keep on track. Explain that you value her support and encouragement but you have too much on your plate to deal with unsolicited "advice ". Let her know you have the same concerns for your kids but will be handling it as recommended by her team of professionals and in a way that works for your family. The reality is your daughter is too big to force the issue. She may respond to a reward temporarily but as with most of our kids when the novelty of that wears off they often still won't do the preferred behavior unless it's meaningful to them (having an issue with retainers here, sigh ) . Wish I could pipe music to your ears when conversations take that kind of turn. Maybe you can work out a signal with your mom that will remind her to stop. Is she still attending school meetings etc ( she did that right? ) it's maybe time to end all of that. It's kind of a mixed message to have her be involved to that degree but then not give other opinions. Most of us could do it but she seems too enmeshed. She might actually grow to enjoy a new role as a grandma and not so much of a mommy role. So hard to change long established patterns so I know it is easier to say. Hugs .... [/QUOTE]
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