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<blockquote data-quote="PollyParent" data-source="post: 85883" data-attributes="member: 3822"><p>Impulse control can be so many things.</p><p></p><p>As you can tell from my signature, I have gone through a similar journey in trying to figure out WHAT is making my son act the way he does. Ultimately, we've landed on the general idea of Asperger's syndrome, but you're right. There is so much overlap in so many of the descriptions of behavior associated with each disability. </p><p></p><p>Hang on, it's going to be OK. </p><p></p><p>Here's the thing. Most kids, especially ones as young as 9, really do want to please their parents and teachers. Not all the time, but for the most part, they'd rather do well than get in trouble.</p><p></p><p>See if you can stop focusing on the Trouble and try to get a better idea of what is going on inside of him that makes him act out. I've found that teachers are consistently surprised when a disruptive child enters the classroom, and there's a lot of focus on the disruptive behavior, and not so much attention paid to figuring out what will help this child settle into his environment.</p><p></p><p>He may be having trouble finishing the assignments because the assignments are bumping into a learning or processing disability, or he may have trouble finishing assignments because it is hard for him to get his thinking organized enough to work his way all the way to the end. My kid won't even start an assignment he predicts he's going to have difficulty with. So then there's a battle about compliance and he has nothing to show for it.</p><p></p><p>It's hard to tell what to look for without having more details, but I'd at least look at ADD and ADHD, but I'd also look for more complex reading and language disabilities too. Lots of those do lead to conduct disorders. You'll need to get a neuropsychiatric evaluation to really pin it down, but you can start by talking to teachers and school psychs to get some ideas as to what they would test for first.</p><p></p><p>Then do more research and keep talking to professionals and getting more tests until you're comfortable with the diagnosis.</p><p></p><p>Good luck. Keep writing us here -- there are some amazing people on the boards who have tons of information for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PollyParent, post: 85883, member: 3822"] Impulse control can be so many things. As you can tell from my signature, I have gone through a similar journey in trying to figure out WHAT is making my son act the way he does. Ultimately, we've landed on the general idea of Asperger's syndrome, but you're right. There is so much overlap in so many of the descriptions of behavior associated with each disability. Hang on, it's going to be OK. Here's the thing. Most kids, especially ones as young as 9, really do want to please their parents and teachers. Not all the time, but for the most part, they'd rather do well than get in trouble. See if you can stop focusing on the Trouble and try to get a better idea of what is going on inside of him that makes him act out. I've found that teachers are consistently surprised when a disruptive child enters the classroom, and there's a lot of focus on the disruptive behavior, and not so much attention paid to figuring out what will help this child settle into his environment. He may be having trouble finishing the assignments because the assignments are bumping into a learning or processing disability, or he may have trouble finishing assignments because it is hard for him to get his thinking organized enough to work his way all the way to the end. My kid won't even start an assignment he predicts he's going to have difficulty with. So then there's a battle about compliance and he has nothing to show for it. It's hard to tell what to look for without having more details, but I'd at least look at ADD and ADHD, but I'd also look for more complex reading and language disabilities too. Lots of those do lead to conduct disorders. You'll need to get a neuropsychiatric evaluation to really pin it down, but you can start by talking to teachers and school psychs to get some ideas as to what they would test for first. Then do more research and keep talking to professionals and getting more tests until you're comfortable with the diagnosis. Good luck. Keep writing us here -- there are some amazing people on the boards who have tons of information for you. [/QUOTE]
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