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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 334990" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Hmmm...</p><p> </p><p>This thread is getting very interesting, as you each have given me something to think about:</p><p> </p><p>GCVMom--YES! I hear you! I, too, am tired of nagging and tired of being the bad guy....when if difficult child just followed instructions and did the work, she would be doing fine. It seems so simple--so why does it have to be so hard?</p><p> </p><p>Hope--That is a good point about considering the purpose of the project...research--and not choosing a topic.</p><p> </p><p>KTMom--I think you are right, too about my interference being a "bailout". I'm willing to help, sure....but bail her out? Not so sure...</p><p> </p><p>Hope again, a good point about considering my goals. I guess I am still trying to define them.</p><p> </p><p>Star--I am with you and Janet on the Dr Phil thing. it is beyond ridiculous that difficult child figured she could just ring him up for an interview. Pfffttt!!! </p><p> </p><p>3Shadows--I'm perfectly willing to help out (if difficult child asks). I agree that porphyria would be an excellent topic for a research paper.</p><p> </p><p>Here's the thing, though--</p><p> </p><p>I had heard of Porphyrria before....and this disease that difficult child came up with was some kind of "syndrome" that I'd never heard before in my life. And she claims that these people with this "syndrome" are the really <em>real</em> vampires</p><p> </p><p>Now, let's just say that she is correct. I'd still be very happy to lend a hand.</p><p> </p><p>In fact, I drove her to the library....helped her search through all of the stacks....checked the online card catalog to see if we could even order a book on her subject. And there is <em>nothing</em>.</p><p> </p><p>I asked her about choosing this topic. Where did she get this information from?</p><p> </p><p>She said she found "all kinds" of information about it online and that there are TONS of books available. Really? You're sure???</p><p> </p><p>Yep.</p><p> </p><p>Then the Dr. phil thing.</p><p> </p><p>Now, I am hearing that the whole project has changed to just gathering opinions. So it sounds like she just intends to ask people whether they believe in vampires or not--which, clearly, is NOT a research project...</p><p> </p><p>But--difficult child is very "in-my-face" and adamant that this is, INDEED, the correct procedure for this paper. She insists that the teacher has OK'd only using internet sources and foregoing the expert interview.</p><p> </p><p>So, in a way...I almost want to touch base with the teacher for the sake of my own sanity. Here I am...ready and willing to be supportive of this project. I signed a paper from the teacher acknowledging that I understood the project.</p><p> </p><p>But I am trying to be helpful and supportive of a person who seems completely out of touch with the reality of the requirements of this project. It appears that she has chosen a topic that does not exist. She has chosen an expert that is not someone she can reach in reality. And she is changing the rules about the project in her own head to fit what she intends to turn in.</p><p> </p><p>It's crazy...</p><p> </p><p>And I am not really sure whether she even believes her own stories any more....</p><p> </p><p>And yet, I keep falling for them because I really want to help.</p><p> </p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/whiteflag.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":whiteflag:" title="whiteflag :whiteflag:" data-shortname=":whiteflag:" /></p><p> </p><p>--DaisyFace</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 334990, member: 6546"] Hmmm... This thread is getting very interesting, as you each have given me something to think about: GCVMom--YES! I hear you! I, too, am tired of nagging and tired of being the bad guy....when if difficult child just followed instructions and did the work, she would be doing fine. It seems so simple--so why does it have to be so hard? Hope--That is a good point about considering the purpose of the project...research--and not choosing a topic. KTMom--I think you are right, too about my interference being a "bailout". I'm willing to help, sure....but bail her out? Not so sure... Hope again, a good point about considering my goals. I guess I am still trying to define them. Star--I am with you and Janet on the Dr Phil thing. it is beyond ridiculous that difficult child figured she could just ring him up for an interview. Pfffttt!!! 3Shadows--I'm perfectly willing to help out (if difficult child asks). I agree that porphyria would be an excellent topic for a research paper. Here's the thing, though-- I had heard of Porphyrria before....and this disease that difficult child came up with was some kind of "syndrome" that I'd never heard before in my life. And she claims that these people with this "syndrome" are the really [I]real[/I] vampires Now, let's just say that she is correct. I'd still be very happy to lend a hand. In fact, I drove her to the library....helped her search through all of the stacks....checked the online card catalog to see if we could even order a book on her subject. And there is [I]nothing[/I]. I asked her about choosing this topic. Where did she get this information from? She said she found "all kinds" of information about it online and that there are TONS of books available. Really? You're sure??? Yep. Then the Dr. phil thing. Now, I am hearing that the whole project has changed to just gathering opinions. So it sounds like she just intends to ask people whether they believe in vampires or not--which, clearly, is NOT a research project... But--difficult child is very "in-my-face" and adamant that this is, INDEED, the correct procedure for this paper. She insists that the teacher has OK'd only using internet sources and foregoing the expert interview. So, in a way...I almost want to touch base with the teacher for the sake of my own sanity. Here I am...ready and willing to be supportive of this project. I signed a paper from the teacher acknowledging that I understood the project. But I am trying to be helpful and supportive of a person who seems completely out of touch with the reality of the requirements of this project. It appears that she has chosen a topic that does not exist. She has chosen an expert that is not someone she can reach in reality. And she is changing the rules about the project in her own head to fit what she intends to turn in. It's crazy... And I am not really sure whether she even believes her own stories any more.... And yet, I keep falling for them because I really want to help. :whiteflag: --DaisyFace [/QUOTE]
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