Our wayward children need us to be a whole mothers too. A whole mother cares about her own welfare and responds if it is threatened. A whole mother sets realistic and responsible limits and sticks by ttem. A whole mother has expectations that she be treated with respect and decency. Whole mothers see the writing on the wall, that is, they act based on reality not fantasy or feelings. Our off-the-rails adult children need this kind of mother. My son needs me to stand up whole, not broken.. What good am I to him, if I wimp out, dissociate, hide in fear? I am no good to him, or to myself. Our lives have independent meaning and value.
