Yes, Setting Boundaries with our Adult Children. 
Both of my children never have accepted their part of all this, we must not be so hard on ourselves. Our children did not come with an instruction manual when born and we raised them as best we could. In my case I went the opposite of how my parents raised me, my Dad an alcoholic and a Mom who lived to please him for fear of his wrath. I instead raised them to not do housework and run an entire household as I did, raised them with the fears and anxiety I had as a child. Just as with alcoholics someone along the family line needs to be the change….if not, the same patterns are repeated generation after generation. I thought I was raising my children with love, let them be children instead of forcing them to be grown up and being a child adult early on. I did the wrong things but you see? My past held a lot of clues to what happened. We don’t do anything to our children full of spite or hate, but with love. My children saw my weakness, knew my family history and took off full speed ahead. I was manipulated by little children and did not even see it at the time..
Also the part you saying he throws all of his life choices on you, my kids do as well! I am even blamed by my daughter for being horny and having her. It’s not her fault she was born. Ridiculous and we are who she blames for everything in her life.
