I am in the same predicament Mother-1. As long as we are busy, we can hold it together. With both of my children gone and when hubby is at work, am alone. Such torture to think and think of every tiny detail, if I had done this or that? But the truth is that that is the past, this is the present, we can only move forward today by letting the past go…..all of it. No matter how we raised our children, some come from perfect homes with perfect parents and have the same results. It’s our children’s choices and not ours how the next chapters will be written. We have to step back and let them take the reins to their own life, it’s absolutely out of our hands.. no amount of thinking, crying, pleading, begging will change a thing except give them more power in manipulating us to do as they want.
Glad the book is a help to you as it was me. 
