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<blockquote data-quote="Loving Abbey 2" data-source="post: 134888" data-attributes="member: 4845"><p>Thanks for the suggestions. The thing is that Abbey can be very oppositional, to the extend that when I have used methods such as taking away the toys left on the floor when she was supposed to be cleaning, and even throwing or giving the items away. She would look me in the eye and say "take more Mama". It really becomes a battle of oppositionalness and no one wins. With Abbey it becomes a really bad cycle to get into. </p><p> </p><p>The reward thing is so hard because nothing sticks for more than a few days, a week at the most. It just ends up being that we do nothing positive together, she gets no rewards and we are both miserable. That's why I have built in the reading time, because without that we would never have any good time together. </p><p> </p><p>Maybe I'll try being more involved in each task, it's just really hard because it's just me. I really don't think I can be too detached right now. I don't want her to start thinking she is losing me too. husband is barely spending any time with her. And maybe I'll make another chart with her. </p><p> </p><p>It's good to at least vent!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Loving Abbey 2, post: 134888, member: 4845"] Thanks for the suggestions. The thing is that Abbey can be very oppositional, to the extend that when I have used methods such as taking away the toys left on the floor when she was supposed to be cleaning, and even throwing or giving the items away. She would look me in the eye and say "take more Mama". It really becomes a battle of oppositionalness and no one wins. With Abbey it becomes a really bad cycle to get into. The reward thing is so hard because nothing sticks for more than a few days, a week at the most. It just ends up being that we do nothing positive together, she gets no rewards and we are both miserable. That's why I have built in the reading time, because without that we would never have any good time together. Maybe I'll try being more involved in each task, it's just really hard because it's just me. I really don't think I can be too detached right now. I don't want her to start thinking she is losing me too. husband is barely spending any time with her. And maybe I'll make another chart with her. It's good to at least vent! [/QUOTE]
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