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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 134900" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Yup, my daughter would up the ante, too. To the point where I would remove one thing and she would promptly add something on her own just to teach me a lesson and show me that she didn't care. The truth was she did care but there was no way she was willing to admit that to me. I learned to ignore her game. I would simply tell her that the consequence was only those items to be removed that had been discussed previously. This was not a game and things were not negotiable -- it was no more, no less.</p><p> </p><p>I did refuse to make the consequence a loss of going somewhere. She had few friends and would quit almost any activity after the first few attempts. So, any outing with other kids was too important to me to take them away from her.</p><p> </p><p>However, we all have to decide what incentive works best for our kids. For mine, it was a combo of rewards and immediate consequences. Anything delayed didn't matter.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 134900, member: 3626"] Yup, my daughter would up the ante, too. To the point where I would remove one thing and she would promptly add something on her own just to teach me a lesson and show me that she didn't care. The truth was she did care but there was no way she was willing to admit that to me. I learned to ignore her game. I would simply tell her that the consequence was only those items to be removed that had been discussed previously. This was not a game and things were not negotiable -- it was no more, no less. I did refuse to make the consequence a loss of going somewhere. She had few friends and would quit almost any activity after the first few attempts. So, any outing with other kids was too important to me to take them away from her. However, we all have to decide what incentive works best for our kids. For mine, it was a combo of rewards and immediate consequences. Anything delayed didn't matter. [/QUOTE]
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