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Struggling with my attitude to difficult child
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 15054" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I would bet money that there is nothing you can say or do that would settle him down. He does not want to analyze and</p><p>solve "his" problem. He wants you to solve his problem and</p><p>that is impossible.</p><p></p><p>My AS difficult child turns to me fairly often with a similar need. In</p><p>his case he "decides" he wants to be popular and then sets</p><p>out "to make" it happen. He tried to force feed himself to</p><p>other teens and then is devestated when he is rejected.</p><p></p><p>This week (yes, I know it sound funny but I bet you do the same thing..lol) I tried once again to get him to understand</p><p>how society works! For four days it has remained in his head</p><p>which is probably a record.</p><p></p><p>"difficult child you alone can not be a family, a club, a group. No ONE</p><p>person can do that. You have to be a caring part of a group</p><p>to be a group member. Think of a beach. Can one grain of</p><p>sand be a beach?? Of course not! To make a beach a bunch</p><p>of sand grains have to unite with the common goal."</p><p></p><p>His response??? He smiled and said "I get it!!" (Of course</p><p>he will not continue to get it for long, lol.) "I have to think like a grain of sand and get together with others who</p><p>want to accomplish something. Thanks, Mama." Geez, DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 15054, member: 35"] I would bet money that there is nothing you can say or do that would settle him down. He does not want to analyze and solve "his" problem. He wants you to solve his problem and that is impossible. My AS difficult child turns to me fairly often with a similar need. In his case he "decides" he wants to be popular and then sets out "to make" it happen. He tried to force feed himself to other teens and then is devestated when he is rejected. This week (yes, I know it sound funny but I bet you do the same thing..lol) I tried once again to get him to understand how society works! For four days it has remained in his head which is probably a record. "difficult child you alone can not be a family, a club, a group. No ONE person can do that. You have to be a caring part of a group to be a group member. Think of a beach. Can one grain of sand be a beach?? Of course not! To make a beach a bunch of sand grains have to unite with the common goal." His response??? He smiled and said "I get it!!" (Of course he will not continue to get it for long, lol.) "I have to think like a grain of sand and get together with others who want to accomplish something. Thanks, Mama." Geez, DDD [/QUOTE]
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