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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 175328" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I think it is purposely. Or habit. Whatever it is, I doubt it's her being older. I think of it this way...</p><p></p><p><em>A woman allows her husband to bully her and the kids and control everything that they do, right down to how they drink a glass of water.</em></p><p></p><p>If this woman is 35, the natural reaction is to tell her to straighten and put herself and her kids first. If that means she has to leave, then she has to leave.</p><p></p><p>If that woman is 75, the natural reaction can be to say, "well, she comes from a different time."</p><p></p><p>The fact is, we all know women who are 35 years old and would never tolerate it. We also know women who are 75 years old and would never tolerate it. It's the woman, not the age.</p><p></p><p><em>A man sees you struggling with too many things in your arms at the store when you are trying to get to the cashier. He pushes past you and says "Maybe you should think it out better next time."</em></p><p></p><p>If he's 35 years old, we think he's a first class jerk. If he's 75 years old, we might think he's a bitter old man who must have suffered some wrong. The fact is, there are young men who are polite and would have helped, and there are old men who have suffered many wrongs and still would have helped. It's the man.</p><p></p><p>I could make other examples, but I think it's easy to see. It's this woman. </p><p></p><p>Flee! Flee! Run away! As fast as you can! Dont give her any more rides, be too busy to take her calls. She has you in her sites, and you need to feel better about your job and yourself than she will allow you to feel.</p><p></p><p>I don't think you can I clean the slate a bit or remove myself a bit from this person. I think you have to make a clean break. The other employees and your supervisor probably know what she is all about. I'd go to HR or the boss or whatever it is and lay it out beforehand. "Mrs. Snottypants is more of a project than I am ready to take on, and I need you to understand that she told me she was frightened to drive to meetings. I would like to stop driving her because she is negative, and seems to be acting out against me. Will that effect my position in the company? Will you back me up if she becomes upset?"</p><p></p><p>It's rotten to be in the position you are in. I hope that things will change for the better soon!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 175328, member: 99"] I think it is purposely. Or habit. Whatever it is, I doubt it's her being older. I think of it this way... [I]A woman allows her husband to bully her and the kids and control everything that they do, right down to how they drink a glass of water.[/I] If this woman is 35, the natural reaction is to tell her to straighten and put herself and her kids first. If that means she has to leave, then she has to leave. If that woman is 75, the natural reaction can be to say, "well, she comes from a different time." The fact is, we all know women who are 35 years old and would never tolerate it. We also know women who are 75 years old and would never tolerate it. It's the woman, not the age. [I]A man sees you struggling with too many things in your arms at the store when you are trying to get to the cashier. He pushes past you and says "Maybe you should think it out better next time."[/I] If he's 35 years old, we think he's a first class jerk. If he's 75 years old, we might think he's a bitter old man who must have suffered some wrong. The fact is, there are young men who are polite and would have helped, and there are old men who have suffered many wrongs and still would have helped. It's the man. I could make other examples, but I think it's easy to see. It's this woman. Flee! Flee! Run away! As fast as you can! Dont give her any more rides, be too busy to take her calls. She has you in her sites, and you need to feel better about your job and yourself than she will allow you to feel. I don't think you can I clean the slate a bit or remove myself a bit from this person. I think you have to make a clean break. The other employees and your supervisor probably know what she is all about. I'd go to HR or the boss or whatever it is and lay it out beforehand. "Mrs. Snottypants is more of a project than I am ready to take on, and I need you to understand that she told me she was frightened to drive to meetings. I would like to stop driving her because she is negative, and seems to be acting out against me. Will that effect my position in the company? Will you back me up if she becomes upset?" It's rotten to be in the position you are in. I hope that things will change for the better soon! [/QUOTE]
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