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<blockquote data-quote="OTE" data-source="post: 13312"><p>I don't blame you at all for being frustrated. He puts you there every moment of every day. But remember that he can't put you in a place that you won't go.... any more than you can get him out of bed if he doesn't want to. If you refuse to play his game then it's over for him. He will have to get out of bed to make food for himself. He will have to get out of bed to do his own laundry, get money to pay for his own internet connection and so forth. Right now you're stuck between how much is enabling him vs supporting him. And that's always tough to figure out for any of us. Of course, maybe not so much for me because I gave up years ago. Mine gets nothing from me period. I subscribe to Fran's philosophy.. "do to get".</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="OTE, post: 13312"] I don't blame you at all for being frustrated. He puts you there every moment of every day. But remember that he can't put you in a place that you won't go.... any more than you can get him out of bed if he doesn't want to. If you refuse to play his game then it's over for him. He will have to get out of bed to make food for himself. He will have to get out of bed to do his own laundry, get money to pay for his own internet connection and so forth. Right now you're stuck between how much is enabling him vs supporting him. And that's always tough to figure out for any of us. Of course, maybe not so much for me because I gave up years ago. Mine gets nothing from me period. I subscribe to Fran's philosophy.. "do to get". [/QUOTE]
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