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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 158524" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Well, you could be psychic. </p><p> </p><p>I found later in life with impatient son that it was BEST for ME and him and the house - if I said things like - </p><p> </p><p>"Okay you want help with this?" </p><p>"yes" (says boy)</p><p>"Well once I sit down to do X I'm not going to be able to do anything else until I complete this project for XX minutes." Then point to clock and give time Big hand on the X little hand on the X. </p><p>"yeah" (says boy) </p><p>So I'd start doing whatever it was and you betcha - Moooom I need a snack, my nose is sore, can you wash this, the dog ate my popsicle, there are men from Mars on the front lawn come and see, Sasquatch just ate our pinecones. And on and on. </p><p> </p><p>My reaction AFTER much practice was - Uh huh - you wanted to work on this and I told you I can not stop you will have to wait. </p><p> </p><p>then I'd get "BUT Moooooooooooom." and I would sometimes say "Okay this project must be finished once I started, I told you that when WE began to do it." and I emphasise WE because if I did something FOR my son - he sat there with me and sometimes either helped me to learn OR just sat there and watched = long gone were the days when I would say "Okay I'll do this for you and YOU go play." That set a very bad pattern to get into. Of Mom did XX (not really fun) and difficult child not only got his project done - but ALSO took time from things I needed to do AND got to play - that taught him nothing. </p><p> </p><p>Unless of course it was something where I NEEDED time to myself. Then I would always make sure to say something like "Well I'll finish this or do this for you - what are you going to do for me?" </p><p> </p><p>Like I said I learned this LATER in life - if I were going to take MY time to finish something for difficult child - our trade was HE did something for me. But as far as him interrupting me once I got started on HIS projects? no maam. I made it emphatically clear BEFORE by pointing to the clock and saying big hand / little hand etc. Short of the house being on fire - don't interrupt. And if the house IS on fire....call 911 from the yard and GET OUT. </p><p> </p><p>(which in our case after our house burned down 2 times - we all knew fire procedures) </p><p> </p><p>hope this helps. </p><p> </p><p>The biggest helper I found was if boy would sit there WITH ME really.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 158524, member: 4964"] Well, you could be psychic. I found later in life with impatient son that it was BEST for ME and him and the house - if I said things like - "Okay you want help with this?" "yes" (says boy) "Well once I sit down to do X I'm not going to be able to do anything else until I complete this project for XX minutes." Then point to clock and give time Big hand on the X little hand on the X. "yeah" (says boy) So I'd start doing whatever it was and you betcha - Moooom I need a snack, my nose is sore, can you wash this, the dog ate my popsicle, there are men from Mars on the front lawn come and see, Sasquatch just ate our pinecones. And on and on. My reaction AFTER much practice was - Uh huh - you wanted to work on this and I told you I can not stop you will have to wait. then I'd get "BUT Moooooooooooom." and I would sometimes say "Okay this project must be finished once I started, I told you that when WE began to do it." and I emphasise WE because if I did something FOR my son - he sat there with me and sometimes either helped me to learn OR just sat there and watched = long gone were the days when I would say "Okay I'll do this for you and YOU go play." That set a very bad pattern to get into. Of Mom did XX (not really fun) and difficult child not only got his project done - but ALSO took time from things I needed to do AND got to play - that taught him nothing. Unless of course it was something where I NEEDED time to myself. Then I would always make sure to say something like "Well I'll finish this or do this for you - what are you going to do for me?" Like I said I learned this LATER in life - if I were going to take MY time to finish something for difficult child - our trade was HE did something for me. But as far as him interrupting me once I got started on HIS projects? no maam. I made it emphatically clear BEFORE by pointing to the clock and saying big hand / little hand etc. Short of the house being on fire - don't interrupt. And if the house IS on fire....call 911 from the yard and GET OUT. (which in our case after our house burned down 2 times - we all knew fire procedures) hope this helps. The biggest helper I found was if boy would sit there WITH ME really. [/QUOTE]
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