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Suicidal ideation in a 'tween -- anyone seen something like this?
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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 375688" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Busywind has a good idea also of pointing out the good things that are in life for him now and coming up. Just one word of caution though, my difficult child was really afraid of college, getting a job and supporting a family. Those were not happy things for him to think about at that time. They overwhelmed him and he couldn't grasp how he would be able to accomplish them. I do believe they are important for a child to think forward to as a happy thing so I sat down with him and told him that he was not ready for any of those things. That no one his age was ready for them. As he goes to middle and high school, he will be preparing to graduate. Once he graduates, he will be ready for college. College will teach him the skills to get the job he would like and once he has that job, he can support a family. It will happen but it will take time. It is important for kids who worry about the future to know that they are such and such an age and will grow and gain tools before that future gets here. I think that helped him and now the future isn't so scary - he knows he will not just wake up one day and have the responsibilities of an adult, that it is a process to work through.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 375688, member: 5096"] Busywind has a good idea also of pointing out the good things that are in life for him now and coming up. Just one word of caution though, my difficult child was really afraid of college, getting a job and supporting a family. Those were not happy things for him to think about at that time. They overwhelmed him and he couldn't grasp how he would be able to accomplish them. I do believe they are important for a child to think forward to as a happy thing so I sat down with him and told him that he was not ready for any of those things. That no one his age was ready for them. As he goes to middle and high school, he will be preparing to graduate. Once he graduates, he will be ready for college. College will teach him the skills to get the job he would like and once he has that job, he can support a family. It will happen but it will take time. It is important for kids who worry about the future to know that they are such and such an age and will grow and gain tools before that future gets here. I think that helped him and now the future isn't so scary - he knows he will not just wake up one day and have the responsibilities of an adult, that it is a process to work through. [/QUOTE]
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