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<blockquote data-quote="SearchingForRainbows" data-source="post: 277407" data-attributes="member: 3388"><p>Thanks for starting this thread. I'm one of those who dreads having difficult children home all summer long. Mine have always required lots of structure or they fall apart quickly. Even though financially we've been strapped, sending difficult child 1 to an out of state camp for kids with problems similar to his, was a blessing. We did it for three years in a row,and he stayed three weeks the first summer, six weeks the second one, and seven the third (The third summer, he was a leader in training and had to work. He got a minimal salary. We had to pay for him to go and pick him up between camp sessions. He spent two weekends at home.) The financial sacrifices we had to make to send him were minor compared to the HE77 we would have experienced if he had been at home all summer.</p><p></p><p>difficult child 2 goes to Y camp every summer for as many weeks as we can afford. He is 17 but has to be watched just like a toddler. He does horribly without a schedule and throws frequent "tantrums" when things don't happen at the exact time he wants them to. With him at home during the day, I feel like a prisoner trapped in jail. </p><p></p><p>husband and I didn't give up on taking vacations. Fortunately, for the past three summers, we took them while difficult child 1 was away. This made things lots easier to handle. However, when we got home from our vacations, we paid the price dearly. We soon learned to schedule vacations close to the beginning of school. One year, we got home on a Saturday evening and difficult child 2 started school that Monday.</p><p></p><p>My best advice for those of you who have difficult children that are inflexible and fall apart easily without schedules, is to make a daily schedule during the summer months. I know it rots, but it really does keep the number of "tantrums" down. Also, having a chart showing good behavior and rewarding it in some small way helps difficult child 2 keep glued together. I know lots of you are against living with behavior charts but in our house we couldn't survive without them. </p><p></p><p>I try to make the most of my time when difficult child 2 is in camp. I go to the beach as much as possible. For a short while, while I'm there, I "forget" I even have difficult child 2. There is something about the ocean that relaxes and calms me in a way that almost nothing else can... WFEN</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SearchingForRainbows, post: 277407, member: 3388"] Thanks for starting this thread. I'm one of those who dreads having difficult children home all summer long. Mine have always required lots of structure or they fall apart quickly. Even though financially we've been strapped, sending difficult child 1 to an out of state camp for kids with problems similar to his, was a blessing. We did it for three years in a row,and he stayed three weeks the first summer, six weeks the second one, and seven the third (The third summer, he was a leader in training and had to work. He got a minimal salary. We had to pay for him to go and pick him up between camp sessions. He spent two weekends at home.) The financial sacrifices we had to make to send him were minor compared to the HE77 we would have experienced if he had been at home all summer. difficult child 2 goes to Y camp every summer for as many weeks as we can afford. He is 17 but has to be watched just like a toddler. He does horribly without a schedule and throws frequent "tantrums" when things don't happen at the exact time he wants them to. With him at home during the day, I feel like a prisoner trapped in jail. husband and I didn't give up on taking vacations. Fortunately, for the past three summers, we took them while difficult child 1 was away. This made things lots easier to handle. However, when we got home from our vacations, we paid the price dearly. We soon learned to schedule vacations close to the beginning of school. One year, we got home on a Saturday evening and difficult child 2 started school that Monday. My best advice for those of you who have difficult children that are inflexible and fall apart easily without schedules, is to make a daily schedule during the summer months. I know it rots, but it really does keep the number of "tantrums" down. Also, having a chart showing good behavior and rewarding it in some small way helps difficult child 2 keep glued together. I know lots of you are against living with behavior charts but in our house we couldn't survive without them. I try to make the most of my time when difficult child 2 is in camp. I go to the beach as much as possible. For a short while, while I'm there, I "forget" I even have difficult child 2. There is something about the ocean that relaxes and calms me in a way that almost nothing else can... WFEN [/QUOTE]
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