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Surviving parent, whom I love, sad that his kids are estranged
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 675964" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>This is one thing I never believed, although I understand the thinking. But I hope you stop believing it too because your husband and, yes, your kids do love you.</p><p></p><p>Just because damaged people in FOO, even mothers, didn't love us, so what? This in no way means others won't see our good qualities. Although it hurt me very much that my FOO was scapegoating m e and did not seem to value me, in no way did I think most people thought like they did and I wasn't surprised that I found love. And, Cedar and Copa, neither should the two of you. Damaged people don't love us I know, I know. "If Mama don't love me, who will?"</p><p></p><p>Answer: Heck, a lot of people who do not have the foggy glasses our mothers wore. They didn't know enough about us to love us. I am always surprised at how my mother perceived me. Nobody else...not one person outside of my FOO...thought so. I can only deduce that she was wrong. She did NOT have the best insight in the world. Even my ex thought I was a very good person and generous (his words). And my new family? I've been with my ex and my new family longer than I was ever with FOO, and they don't see me the way my FOO did. I think that means they are wrong. Same with you two!!!</p><p></p><p>In my case, it is my siblings who can not find love, not me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 675964, member: 1550"] This is one thing I never believed, although I understand the thinking. But I hope you stop believing it too because your husband and, yes, your kids do love you. Just because damaged people in FOO, even mothers, didn't love us, so what? This in no way means others won't see our good qualities. Although it hurt me very much that my FOO was scapegoating m e and did not seem to value me, in no way did I think most people thought like they did and I wasn't surprised that I found love. And, Cedar and Copa, neither should the two of you. Damaged people don't love us I know, I know. "If Mama don't love me, who will?" Answer: Heck, a lot of people who do not have the foggy glasses our mothers wore. They didn't know enough about us to love us. I am always surprised at how my mother perceived me. Nobody else...not one person outside of my FOO...thought so. I can only deduce that she was wrong. She did NOT have the best insight in the world. Even my ex thought I was a very good person and generous (his words). And my new family? I've been with my ex and my new family longer than I was ever with FOO, and they don't see me the way my FOO did. I think that means they are wrong. Same with you two!!! In my case, it is my siblings who can not find love, not me. [/QUOTE]
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