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Surviving parent, whom I love, sad that his kids are estranged
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 676018" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Are you seen as a liar outside of FOO, Cedar?</p><p></p><p>You would be seen as one, if you were.</p><p></p><p>Think about it. Your mother and sister are two people. If twenty others don't see you as a liar, they are in the minority and wrong. I mean, a nyone can call somebody a liar. I lied a lot as a kid and in my 20's, mostly to exaggerate and make myself seem better. One day I got honest with myselsf and decided to stop lying and to this day I never purposely lie, except for white lies that I use not to hurt people. I'm sure the early lying came from my hideous mother who made me think I was nothing.But it was an inappropriate coping skill and the blame is on me.</p><p></p><p>My sibls still say I lie. Should I believe them or all the other people in my life who would laugh at their assertion? My life with my mother was MY life with her, and I know it was not their experience, but I'm still right about how she treated me. And she was the parent. And she started when I was an infant. And they can stand on their heads or hold their breaths until they turn blue, and what I say about her is still how she treated me. Sorry, Charlie. It was the truth.</p><p></p><p>Cedar, don't believe FOO or what they say about you.</p><p></p><p>On another site, somebody asked if the FOO abusers enjjoy picking on the scapegoats as a group. I think mine do. After all, my sister brought my brother to read what I write here and she didn't have to, but, if she didn't, she wouldn't have somebody to talk bad about me to. In fact, my FOO are big gossips and, I'm ashamed, I was too. We do love to make fun of people in our FOO. Now that I see this, I hope to just not talk to anyone in real time about them again. But they will st ill love getting together and laughing about me. And that's ok. It says more about where they are at than me.</p><p></p><p>"What you think of me is none of my business." I love this.</p><p></p><p>Cedar, love it too <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 676018, member: 1550"] Are you seen as a liar outside of FOO, Cedar? You would be seen as one, if you were. Think about it. Your mother and sister are two people. If twenty others don't see you as a liar, they are in the minority and wrong. I mean, a nyone can call somebody a liar. I lied a lot as a kid and in my 20's, mostly to exaggerate and make myself seem better. One day I got honest with myselsf and decided to stop lying and to this day I never purposely lie, except for white lies that I use not to hurt people. I'm sure the early lying came from my hideous mother who made me think I was nothing.But it was an inappropriate coping skill and the blame is on me. My sibls still say I lie. Should I believe them or all the other people in my life who would laugh at their assertion? My life with my mother was MY life with her, and I know it was not their experience, but I'm still right about how she treated me. And she was the parent. And she started when I was an infant. And they can stand on their heads or hold their breaths until they turn blue, and what I say about her is still how she treated me. Sorry, Charlie. It was the truth. Cedar, don't believe FOO or what they say about you. On another site, somebody asked if the FOO abusers enjjoy picking on the scapegoats as a group. I think mine do. After all, my sister brought my brother to read what I write here and she didn't have to, but, if she didn't, she wouldn't have somebody to talk bad about me to. In fact, my FOO are big gossips and, I'm ashamed, I was too. We do love to make fun of people in our FOO. Now that I see this, I hope to just not talk to anyone in real time about them again. But they will st ill love getting together and laughing about me. And that's ok. It says more about where they are at than me. "What you think of me is none of my business." I love this. Cedar, love it too :) [/QUOTE]
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