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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 676152" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>The only way I will be vulnerable to my sister is if M dies or leaves me and I am alone. Because as it is, we would be alone my son and I. Cedar, I do not think it was ever in the cards for your mother to marry the priest. I think your mother manipulated your sister, to make her jealous. It was a love triangle of sorts. Your mother would never have married the priest because in a relationship of real intimacy she could not have concealed her cruelty. She would have never wanted to show him that.</p><p>Yes. But it is your mother who would have had to be different that who she is. I tell you, I feel certain she would never ever marry the priest.</p><p>Look what your mother gained Cedar, with your sister debasing herself like that.</p><p>See this is the part which made me think that you do not believe they have intent.</p><p></p><p>I agree with this, Cedar. I think you are right. This is exactly what my sister does. Except she could care less if anybody feels bad about themselves. All she feels is their victim. If the other feels bad, for her, she believes they deserved one hundred times worse. </p><p></p><p>So, again, I do not know what I believe. My idea of my sister is she believes that I hurt her and do horrible things to her. That is how she justifies doing bad things.</p><p>So you do not feel there was any self-protection involved? My sister had extracted everything she could expect to get, and left her down, vanquished and abandoned, and did not look back.</p><p></p><p>Her attitude, actually, was contempt.</p><p></p><p>Later she expressed that she felt betrayed. Because only later did she realize that she lost power. To me. That makes sense. She had abandoned the town thinking there was nothing worth having there.</p><p></p><p>And she was forced to rethink things. Because if I took responsibility and had control...in her mind...it must have been for some kind of advantage. That was why she accused me of stealing. She could not envision I did not do it for some kind of material benefit.</p><p></p><p>She must think I am like her. She could not ever imagine who I am. Does she have the same trouble understanding me, as I do her?</p><p></p><p>Happy New Year.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 676152, member: 18958"] The only way I will be vulnerable to my sister is if M dies or leaves me and I am alone. Because as it is, we would be alone my son and I. Cedar, I do not think it was ever in the cards for your mother to marry the priest. I think your mother manipulated your sister, to make her jealous. It was a love triangle of sorts. Your mother would never have married the priest because in a relationship of real intimacy she could not have concealed her cruelty. She would have never wanted to show him that. Yes. But it is your mother who would have had to be different that who she is. I tell you, I feel certain she would never ever marry the priest. Look what your mother gained Cedar, with your sister debasing herself like that. See this is the part which made me think that you do not believe they have intent. I agree with this, Cedar. I think you are right. This is exactly what my sister does. Except she could care less if anybody feels bad about themselves. All she feels is their victim. If the other feels bad, for her, she believes they deserved one hundred times worse. So, again, I do not know what I believe. My idea of my sister is she believes that I hurt her and do horrible things to her. That is how she justifies doing bad things. So you do not feel there was any self-protection involved? My sister had extracted everything she could expect to get, and left her down, vanquished and abandoned, and did not look back. Her attitude, actually, was contempt. Later she expressed that she felt betrayed. Because only later did she realize that she lost power. To me. That makes sense. She had abandoned the town thinking there was nothing worth having there. And she was forced to rethink things. Because if I took responsibility and had control...in her mind...it must have been for some kind of advantage. That was why she accused me of stealing. She could not envision I did not do it for some kind of material benefit. She must think I am like her. She could not ever imagine who I am. Does she have the same trouble understanding me, as I do her? Happy New Year. COPA [/QUOTE]
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