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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 125466" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Hi Arielle and welcome! So glad you found us.</p><p> </p><p>The thing that speaks loudest to me is that you have suspected for a while that there is something going on with your daughter. Over the years, the one thing I've learned to trust is my mommy gut. I think we know our kids best and have that innate ability to know when something is up. Follow your heart on that one, in my humble opinion.</p><p> </p><p>Did the developmental pediatrician or psychologist have any ideas? Do you still think there's a hearing issue? My first thought on reading that was to wonder if there's an auditory processing problem - I'm embarrassed to admit I don't know off the top of my head who evaluates that, but I'm thinking maybe a speech therapist or occupational therapist?</p><p> </p><p>Does she have behavior difficulties in school? Have to echo Midwest Mom's questions too.</p><p> </p><p>What are the consequences when she defies, talks back, or hits? </p><p> </p><p>I would strongly recommend "The Explosive Child". I'm not a self-help book kind of person, with the exception of this one. Aside from giving us a peek into the thought processes of our challenging kiddos, the book also helps to identify priorities. For example, and this is just based on life with my difficult child so take what you can use and skip the rest, in my opinion the hitting and violence would be top priority. Zero tolerance for violence (destruction is violence in our home), always. Swift, consistent, and concrete nonviolent consquences. Time out. Loss of privilege. Loss of allowance. Letter of apology. I'd worry less about fresh mouth and even less about her always having to have the last word. The idea is that if you try to address *all* the behaviors as if they're equally important, you're going to flame out really fast and your quality of life is going to be just awful. Pick out the priorities for your family and start small.</p><p> </p><p>Again, welcome!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 125466, member: 8"] Hi Arielle and welcome! So glad you found us. The thing that speaks loudest to me is that you have suspected for a while that there is something going on with your daughter. Over the years, the one thing I've learned to trust is my mommy gut. I think we know our kids best and have that innate ability to know when something is up. Follow your heart on that one, in my humble opinion. Did the developmental pediatrician or psychologist have any ideas? Do you still think there's a hearing issue? My first thought on reading that was to wonder if there's an auditory processing problem - I'm embarrassed to admit I don't know off the top of my head who evaluates that, but I'm thinking maybe a speech therapist or occupational therapist? Does she have behavior difficulties in school? Have to echo Midwest Mom's questions too. What are the consequences when she defies, talks back, or hits? I would strongly recommend "The Explosive Child". I'm not a self-help book kind of person, with the exception of this one. Aside from giving us a peek into the thought processes of our challenging kiddos, the book also helps to identify priorities. For example, and this is just based on life with my difficult child so take what you can use and skip the rest, in my opinion the hitting and violence would be top priority. Zero tolerance for violence (destruction is violence in our home), always. Swift, consistent, and concrete nonviolent consquences. Time out. Loss of privilege. Loss of allowance. Letter of apology. I'd worry less about fresh mouth and even less about her always having to have the last word. The idea is that if you try to address *all* the behaviors as if they're equally important, you're going to flame out really fast and your quality of life is going to be just awful. Pick out the priorities for your family and start small. Again, welcome! [/QUOTE]
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