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<blockquote data-quote="Mickey2255" data-source="post: 118387" data-attributes="member: 3720"><p>We do have a horrible IEP but at least it does have some weak behavior goals. We also have a BIP that we had just met on last week to update because he'd been having so many more incidents since school started and the BIP was written last spring. The revisions were not yet completed and I had concerns that even much of what was in the old BIP wasn't being done. Like the psychologist told us - it looks decent but it doesn't matter if it's not being used.</p><p></p><p>So here's the history: 16 acts of aggression towards other students since the beginning of THIS year. 90% of them were when other children "pushed his button" by teasing or taunting him. One dared him to hit him because of his reputation. Several times it's been girls. His one saving grace is that he ALWAYS warns people he's getting ready to blow. Most of the time he will actually say, "You are making me angry". If it goes too fast he "growls" and glares - I don't think he can get the words out. A SMART person would run like hell. A SMART teacher would get him the heck out of Dodge! I won't say he's easy to calm down all the time but I've never had him get aggressive if I've caught him at that stage. And you have to bring him ALL the way down because if you stop too soon he'll still go after whoever made him angry.</p><p></p><p>Apparently the Special Education director tried convincing the Executive Director (principal) to try a one on one aid with him instead of expulsion and she refused. She's had enough. Wouldn't even consider bringing in a behavior specialist or providing additional training. The attorney they have hired is known for going for the juggler. If we do end up in due process I'm going to try getting him excused - I have a business relationship with his wife. Not sure it would work but I can try.</p><p></p><p>The sad thing is that my son is very sweet and loving and almost everyone adores him from the first meeting. Many cannot even imagine he has such rages - they've never seen it. My babysitter feels perfectly safe with him in the house with her 1 year old. Even his little sister isn't afraid of him - though she certainly knows how to play the game! His acts of aggression are never random - someone HAS to push his button to set him off. Then once it's pushed, his "bubble" or personal space gets very big so you had better not get in his face to try talking to him! I've repeatedly told the school this stuff - we don't have it at home - how hard is it to protect him and the other children around him? He's 4 ft tall and 75 lbs - he can't do THAT much damage to anyone - he doesn't even have good muscle tone since he has Sensory Integration Disorder (SID).</p><p></p><p>I'm just shaking my head and doing a whole lot of sighing right now. I'm glad this is such a lovely, safe place to vent with people who actually understand. I meet with a wonderful advocate tomorrow and will show up in full battle gear ready to plan our strategy.</p><p></p><p>Thanks for reading and helping!</p><p>Michelle</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mickey2255, post: 118387, member: 3720"] We do have a horrible IEP but at least it does have some weak behavior goals. We also have a BIP that we had just met on last week to update because he'd been having so many more incidents since school started and the BIP was written last spring. The revisions were not yet completed and I had concerns that even much of what was in the old BIP wasn't being done. Like the psychologist told us - it looks decent but it doesn't matter if it's not being used. So here's the history: 16 acts of aggression towards other students since the beginning of THIS year. 90% of them were when other children "pushed his button" by teasing or taunting him. One dared him to hit him because of his reputation. Several times it's been girls. His one saving grace is that he ALWAYS warns people he's getting ready to blow. Most of the time he will actually say, "You are making me angry". If it goes too fast he "growls" and glares - I don't think he can get the words out. A SMART person would run like hell. A SMART teacher would get him the heck out of Dodge! I won't say he's easy to calm down all the time but I've never had him get aggressive if I've caught him at that stage. And you have to bring him ALL the way down because if you stop too soon he'll still go after whoever made him angry. Apparently the Special Education director tried convincing the Executive Director (principal) to try a one on one aid with him instead of expulsion and she refused. She's had enough. Wouldn't even consider bringing in a behavior specialist or providing additional training. The attorney they have hired is known for going for the juggler. If we do end up in due process I'm going to try getting him excused - I have a business relationship with his wife. Not sure it would work but I can try. The sad thing is that my son is very sweet and loving and almost everyone adores him from the first meeting. Many cannot even imagine he has such rages - they've never seen it. My babysitter feels perfectly safe with him in the house with her 1 year old. Even his little sister isn't afraid of him - though she certainly knows how to play the game! His acts of aggression are never random - someone HAS to push his button to set him off. Then once it's pushed, his "bubble" or personal space gets very big so you had better not get in his face to try talking to him! I've repeatedly told the school this stuff - we don't have it at home - how hard is it to protect him and the other children around him? He's 4 ft tall and 75 lbs - he can't do THAT much damage to anyone - he doesn't even have good muscle tone since he has Sensory Integration Disorder (SID). I'm just shaking my head and doing a whole lot of sighing right now. I'm glad this is such a lovely, safe place to vent with people who actually understand. I meet with a wonderful advocate tomorrow and will show up in full battle gear ready to plan our strategy. Thanks for reading and helping! Michelle [/QUOTE]
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