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Sweet Betsy-What to say or not say or do?
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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 431528" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>I am so sorry you are going through this. I totally understand wanting to run and hide. My difficult child is curently in jail and his girlfriend is pregnant. They have no money, no place to live, he is still struggling with his addictions, she appears to be estranged from her family and this baby has a less that 10% chance of not inheriting difficult child's genetic disorder and being born normal . The baby will need much medical attention and both the parents are too ignorant and immature to cope with it. Like you, I wish the mother would terminate the pregnancy. I Have not said this to my son and I will not ever. They won't do it anyway and the situation my difficult child was born into will continue. I can only hope that that baby will be taken and put up for adoption and he will have a family who sticks with him till adulthood as we did for difficult child. </p><p> </p><p>I am taking my time deciding what role if any I will have in this child's life. I am leaning toward not having much to do with this child. I fell that way becasue I know that difficult child and girlfriend will try to take advantage of us using the baby as a pawn for us to give them money and things. They will not follow any advice given either by me or by professionals and I will be stressing out all the time. I will most likely call DSS and inform them that this baby is on the way and his likely medical risks/needs. Hopefully DSS will make sure the mother gets prenatal care and counsel the her on nutrition, support her, monitor the baby and hook him into the right developmental programs and medical specialists from an early age. I have lost my health to my difficult children and there is no way I could even think about raising or even overseeing the life of another one of him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 431528, member: 2315"] I am so sorry you are going through this. I totally understand wanting to run and hide. My difficult child is curently in jail and his girlfriend is pregnant. They have no money, no place to live, he is still struggling with his addictions, she appears to be estranged from her family and this baby has a less that 10% chance of not inheriting difficult child's genetic disorder and being born normal . The baby will need much medical attention and both the parents are too ignorant and immature to cope with it. Like you, I wish the mother would terminate the pregnancy. I Have not said this to my son and I will not ever. They won't do it anyway and the situation my difficult child was born into will continue. I can only hope that that baby will be taken and put up for adoption and he will have a family who sticks with him till adulthood as we did for difficult child. I am taking my time deciding what role if any I will have in this child's life. I am leaning toward not having much to do with this child. I fell that way becasue I know that difficult child and girlfriend will try to take advantage of us using the baby as a pawn for us to give them money and things. They will not follow any advice given either by me or by professionals and I will be stressing out all the time. I will most likely call DSS and inform them that this baby is on the way and his likely medical risks/needs. Hopefully DSS will make sure the mother gets prenatal care and counsel the her on nutrition, support her, monitor the baby and hook him into the right developmental programs and medical specialists from an early age. I have lost my health to my difficult children and there is no way I could even think about raising or even overseeing the life of another one of him. [/QUOTE]
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