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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 695147" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>You do not deserve to be a punching bag for anybody. And scathing text? I would block her. Until she learns to have limits. You and her father merit respect and nothing else. Until she and he can control themselves I would not have anything to do with either one of them. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black.</p><p></p><p>And as far as them being able to decide who you talk to and why--that is ludicrous. Your speaking to the mother--or any other person in the world-- has not a thing in the world do to with your daughter or her husband.</p><p></p><p>Which I think is exactly the kernel of truth here. They are scapegoating you and your husband for their own problems and lack of limits. There is a psychological term for this, actually several. Projections and externalization come to mind. </p><p></p><p>I think what you did took a whole lot of heat off the situation for you. You reached out. You took the high road. You exhibited self-control. You set a strong limit. You have everything in the world to be proud of. </p><p></p><p>And most of all, you showed your daughter that she is worth it, to you. Worth risking. Worth trying. Good for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 695147, member: 18958"] You do not deserve to be a punching bag for anybody. And scathing text? I would block her. Until she learns to have limits. You and her father merit respect and nothing else. Until she and he can control themselves I would not have anything to do with either one of them. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black. And as far as them being able to decide who you talk to and why--that is ludicrous. Your speaking to the mother--or any other person in the world-- has not a thing in the world do to with your daughter or her husband. Which I think is exactly the kernel of truth here. They are scapegoating you and your husband for their own problems and lack of limits. There is a psychological term for this, actually several. Projections and externalization come to mind. I think what you did took a whole lot of heat off the situation for you. You reached out. You took the high road. You exhibited self-control. You set a strong limit. You have everything in the world to be proud of. And most of all, you showed your daughter that she is worth it, to you. Worth risking. Worth trying. Good for you. [/QUOTE]
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