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Talk about guilt--will this family ever heal?
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 654393" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Terry...I am saying this gently: I would stop all the texts, phone calls, emails to other people about your son, and what he did or didn't receive, and what his girlfriends did or didn't do. They are going to do whatever they do, regardless of what you say or what you want. <strong> </strong></p><p></p><p><strong>You have no control over anybody but yourself, and asking people to ask other people not to do things is....pointless. I know all the words, and all the back and forth, and all the drama...makes you feel like you have "done something." This is about you, not them.</strong></p><p></p><p>Terry, I hope you can see here, from all of the other people who post on these forums, that the way back to sanity is to get help and start the process of stopping the enabling. Get back to Al-Anon and to NAMI. Make THAT the top priority, before anything else in your life. </p><p></p><p>I understand how beat down we can get through all of this. We form habits. It's hard to change. </p><p></p><p>Ask yourself: Is anything you have been doing working? Terry, it's time to change.</p><p></p><p>Warmly and with compassion, Terry. We are here for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 654393, member: 17542"] Terry...I am saying this gently: I would stop all the texts, phone calls, emails to other people about your son, and what he did or didn't receive, and what his girlfriends did or didn't do. They are going to do whatever they do, regardless of what you say or what you want. [B] [/B] [B]You have no control over anybody but yourself, and asking people to ask other people not to do things is....pointless. I know all the words, and all the back and forth, and all the drama...makes you feel like you have "done something." This is about you, not them.[/B] Terry, I hope you can see here, from all of the other people who post on these forums, that the way back to sanity is to get help and start the process of stopping the enabling. Get back to Al-Anon and to NAMI. Make THAT the top priority, before anything else in your life. I understand how beat down we can get through all of this. We form habits. It's hard to change. Ask yourself: Is anything you have been doing working? Terry, it's time to change. Warmly and with compassion, Terry. We are here for you. [/QUOTE]
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