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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 220958" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>Sounds like the school did have a consequence plan in place, what about a reward system as part of his BIP? I know that when my son was your difficult child's age, he had a way of being encouraged and rewarded for making "good choices". It was a good plan for my son because he enjoyed feeding the class fish, picking out a small treat at the end of the day, handing out papers for the teacher or filling the other student's "in" boxes. Another reward was he could go to the library and choose a book and the asst princ would read it to him in her office. There were incentives to strive for.</p><p> </p><p>Additionally, my son attended therapy with his therapist on a regular basis. His psychiatrist was basically just for medications. The therapist worked with him to recognize the signs of building frustration. It took awhile. Fortunately, his third grade teacher could look at his face and "see it coming"! Tactile things like a piece of velcro attached to his desk that he could rub when he was feeling frustrated helped; also he carried a stress ball around in his pocket that he could squeeze. He carried, and still to this day (7th grade) carries, pictures of the dogs to look at to help him calm. </p><p> </p><p>Once he was able to identify how it felt, physically, when the anger and frustration were building, he was allowed to ask to go to a "safe place". A place in the school where he felt comfortable and safe, where no one made any demands on him or asked him questions. He chose the nurses office and the principal's office. Many a day he spent 15 to 30 minutes chilling. It really helped.</p><p> </p><p>The issue with the humping the table is a little disconcerning. It could be a really impulsive adhd thing, or it could be a sign of something else. How long has he been on the zoloft? I don't see a diagnosis of depression or anything else in addition to the adhd. What was the reasoning for him being on that medication?</p><p> </p><p>I'm thinking that what happened the other day, the attempt to destroy property, the throwing where someone could have been hurt, the sexual acting out all warrant an emergency psychiatrist visit. I would demand that. I would also ask for further diagnostic testing. Perhaps your son's psychiatrist can recommend a nueropdoc.</p><p> </p><p>You also mentioned that the school/principal(?) made an application for your son to attend "some day school at a mental health place". Do you know anything about this? Did you approve the application? That constitutes a change of placement which they cannot do without a meeting with you. Have you visited this day program to see what it is about?</p><p> </p><p>This is your son we are talking about here and the school has no right to make educational or placement decisions without your consult and approval. What is his official diagnosis in regards to his IEP? What testing did he go through in order to qualify? I ask you that because there are programs and classes that he may qualify for in the current school system if his classification is emotional in some way. Even a special bus picking him up with an aide on it for kids with behavior issues is an option. </p><p> </p><p>Sorry I've given you so many words here - I just don't want you, and especially your son, to be railroaded by the school or his psychiatrist. </p><p> </p><p>Another idea, do you have a local children's hospital or teaching university in your town or nearby? They are usually good options for testing and such for our difficult children.</p><p> </p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 220958, member: 805"] Sounds like the school did have a consequence plan in place, what about a reward system as part of his BIP? I know that when my son was your difficult child's age, he had a way of being encouraged and rewarded for making "good choices". It was a good plan for my son because he enjoyed feeding the class fish, picking out a small treat at the end of the day, handing out papers for the teacher or filling the other student's "in" boxes. Another reward was he could go to the library and choose a book and the asst princ would read it to him in her office. There were incentives to strive for. Additionally, my son attended therapy with his therapist on a regular basis. His psychiatrist was basically just for medications. The therapist worked with him to recognize the signs of building frustration. It took awhile. Fortunately, his third grade teacher could look at his face and "see it coming"! Tactile things like a piece of velcro attached to his desk that he could rub when he was feeling frustrated helped; also he carried a stress ball around in his pocket that he could squeeze. He carried, and still to this day (7th grade) carries, pictures of the dogs to look at to help him calm. Once he was able to identify how it felt, physically, when the anger and frustration were building, he was allowed to ask to go to a "safe place". A place in the school where he felt comfortable and safe, where no one made any demands on him or asked him questions. He chose the nurses office and the principal's office. Many a day he spent 15 to 30 minutes chilling. It really helped. The issue with the humping the table is a little disconcerning. It could be a really impulsive adhd thing, or it could be a sign of something else. How long has he been on the zoloft? I don't see a diagnosis of depression or anything else in addition to the adhd. What was the reasoning for him being on that medication? I'm thinking that what happened the other day, the attempt to destroy property, the throwing where someone could have been hurt, the sexual acting out all warrant an emergency psychiatrist visit. I would demand that. I would also ask for further diagnostic testing. Perhaps your son's psychiatrist can recommend a nueropdoc. You also mentioned that the school/principal(?) made an application for your son to attend "some day school at a mental health place". Do you know anything about this? Did you approve the application? That constitutes a change of placement which they cannot do without a meeting with you. Have you visited this day program to see what it is about? This is your son we are talking about here and the school has no right to make educational or placement decisions without your consult and approval. What is his official diagnosis in regards to his IEP? What testing did he go through in order to qualify? I ask you that because there are programs and classes that he may qualify for in the current school system if his classification is emotional in some way. Even a special bus picking him up with an aide on it for kids with behavior issues is an option. Sorry I've given you so many words here - I just don't want you, and especially your son, to be railroaded by the school or his psychiatrist. Another idea, do you have a local children's hospital or teaching university in your town or nearby? They are usually good options for testing and such for our difficult children. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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