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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 242504" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I believe that kids can not be forced to get straight A's in spite of their IQ. I have two gifted children who never got top grades. One is so successful anyway that he is already a millionaire at 31. The other is doing all right. It's not his nature to push and achieve. I have to agree that, although teachers can help, they can't make kids get top grades, and that isn't their job. Some kids with high IQs don't get A's because of many factors. Some with lower IQs are better able to push themselves or work harder and make higher grades. With all the respect in the world (and I'm serious), we can't force our kids to have motivation. ADHD alone should not impede a child, at his age, from getting really good grades. We don't know a lot about your son, and it is your right not to tell us, but if he has ADHD and nothing else, he can still perform well if he puts his mind to it. My autistic son constantly makes the high honor roll and he gets less help and has a greater disability (if one can match disabilities) than your son. He does better in school than my two gifted children did. He has more problems to fight at school too--he is very distractable, but he is extremely motivated and works very hard. My youngest has an average IQ and Learning Disability (LD) problems and does not do as well even though the teachers are doing such a good job. They can only do so much. In the kindest way possible (I mean no harm--I think you are a very nice person and a dedicated mom), we can't expect educators to do it all. By age 17, I would say that 80&#37; of the effort has to come from your son. Teachers have a hard job and lots of students--they can't overfocus on one child. Now if you feel he needs a smaller setting, there is Special Education. My Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) son was in a small class for reading and math until high school and he got a lot of attentioin and was taught TONS by his aide on how to focus, take notes, etc. Have you considered homeschooling him? Is there an online school in your area? Remember, that in college, if that is his goal, he will not get this kind of attention. He is close to becoming a young adult in the eyes of the education world. Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 242504, member: 1550"] I believe that kids can not be forced to get straight A's in spite of their IQ. I have two gifted children who never got top grades. One is so successful anyway that he is already a millionaire at 31. The other is doing all right. It's not his nature to push and achieve. I have to agree that, although teachers can help, they can't make kids get top grades, and that isn't their job. Some kids with high IQs don't get A's because of many factors. Some with lower IQs are better able to push themselves or work harder and make higher grades. With all the respect in the world (and I'm serious), we can't force our kids to have motivation. ADHD alone should not impede a child, at his age, from getting really good grades. We don't know a lot about your son, and it is your right not to tell us, but if he has ADHD and nothing else, he can still perform well if he puts his mind to it. My autistic son constantly makes the high honor roll and he gets less help and has a greater disability (if one can match disabilities) than your son. He does better in school than my two gifted children did. He has more problems to fight at school too--he is very distractable, but he is extremely motivated and works very hard. My youngest has an average IQ and Learning Disability (LD) problems and does not do as well even though the teachers are doing such a good job. They can only do so much. In the kindest way possible (I mean no harm--I think you are a very nice person and a dedicated mom), we can't expect educators to do it all. By age 17, I would say that 80% of the effort has to come from your son. Teachers have a hard job and lots of students--they can't overfocus on one child. Now if you feel he needs a smaller setting, there is Special Education. My Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) son was in a small class for reading and math until high school and he got a lot of attentioin and was taught TONS by his aide on how to focus, take notes, etc. Have you considered homeschooling him? Is there an online school in your area? Remember, that in college, if that is his goal, he will not get this kind of attention. He is close to becoming a young adult in the eyes of the education world. Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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