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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 750188" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>What does the psychiatrist say about this behavior? This is really concerning. Is he on medication? Does he have hobbies? What does he like to do? Any physical activities like sports or martial arts? Art? Friendships? How is his behavior at school? Or is he home-schooled? Does he have an IEP? If he is at school and has an IEP can you request an emergency meeting and work out something where he can do his homework at school, while supervised there? </p><p></p><p>It sounds like your best shot is to avoid the escalating behavior in the first place, through strong routine and expectations. An unvarying sequence for when he comes home, snack, quiet time in a specific place, at a specific time. Is computer and game time strictly limited? Do you have control of these items? </p><p></p><p>There are trained professionals that do behavioral analysis. They come to your home. They observe. They train the child and the family to deal with problematic behaviors and routines. </p><p></p><p>It seems to me the problem is with the electronics. They trigger him. It's like they are toxic to him.</p><p></p><p>The other thing that seems to trigger him is the homework. Maybe you can lay off. Let him take responsibility for it. I did not push my son on homework. It made me too anxious. I was told by his psychiatrist that this was a smart move. Your son gets anxious. Why create battles? But that doesn't mean he gets to play games or be on the computer his whole life through. I would try to seriously limit these activities. Maybe online you can find suggestions on how to take control of electronics. They are not good for any of us, particularly for children with these kinds of disorders.</p><p></p><p>I believe that change comes more from encouraging positive behaviors rather than trying to limit undesirable ones. That is building on strengths. What are his strengths? What are his strongest, easiest relationships in the family? What does he love to do? (Besides games and online.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 750188, member: 18958"] What does the psychiatrist say about this behavior? This is really concerning. Is he on medication? Does he have hobbies? What does he like to do? Any physical activities like sports or martial arts? Art? Friendships? How is his behavior at school? Or is he home-schooled? Does he have an IEP? If he is at school and has an IEP can you request an emergency meeting and work out something where he can do his homework at school, while supervised there? It sounds like your best shot is to avoid the escalating behavior in the first place, through strong routine and expectations. An unvarying sequence for when he comes home, snack, quiet time in a specific place, at a specific time. Is computer and game time strictly limited? Do you have control of these items? There are trained professionals that do behavioral analysis. They come to your home. They observe. They train the child and the family to deal with problematic behaviors and routines. It seems to me the problem is with the electronics. They trigger him. It's like they are toxic to him. The other thing that seems to trigger him is the homework. Maybe you can lay off. Let him take responsibility for it. I did not push my son on homework. It made me too anxious. I was told by his psychiatrist that this was a smart move. Your son gets anxious. Why create battles? But that doesn't mean he gets to play games or be on the computer his whole life through. I would try to seriously limit these activities. Maybe online you can find suggestions on how to take control of electronics. They are not good for any of us, particularly for children with these kinds of disorders. I believe that change comes more from encouraging positive behaviors rather than trying to limit undesirable ones. That is building on strengths. What are his strengths? What are his strongest, easiest relationships in the family? What does he love to do? (Besides games and online.) [/QUOTE]
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