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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 750209" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>This is great! I will only write one person's opinion, my own.</p><p></p><p>If you could help him build on this huge, huge strength, this would be a gift to him and to others. There is no downside to love and to compassion and to care. With the technology I believe there is a great downside for him and for the rest of us. Are there activities, outlets, to support him to give to others...whether animals or humans? Volunteering, friendships, raising or training animals, such as service dogs, etc.? Or spirituality.</p><p></p><p>I know you can't and shouldn't take away what motivates him and what he loves, the technology, but thinking about supporting his real gifts...could be a win win.</p><p></p><p>This sounds fantastic.</p><p> To me, the latter is the important thing. This is where the most damage can come. To him and to others. I believe the schoolwork will take care of itself. In the USA there is always a do over possible academically, even until the end of life. I am aware that in other countries, (I know some about the British system with exams that make it impossible to progress past a certain point, for some.) But the thing is, the most important thing for him, I believe, is self-mastery. The sense that he works as a person. And that is based in part upon self-control and integration of impulses.</p><p></p><p>I think you are headed down the right path, making connections with people who have the knowledge and the treatment. As you and he gain more support, skills and knowledge, if it were me, I would downplay that which puts pressure on all of you. I know that is hard. I know it with myself. It's hard for me to give myself the basics, when I am aware I will be losing opportunities. But, I believe are sustained by nourishing the deepest things within us, as well as achievements.</p><p></p><p>I am not fishing here to know where you are from, but I remember a mother posted here with a young child, a 5 year old, from Canada. And how desperately she sought resources for her child. And what there were, were only in Toronto, I think, and she lived in the Prairies, I think. It was so, so hard. In Canada it seems it was impossible to get treatment at all, without the diagnosis of Autism. But the Canadian national medical system would not give the diagnosis out, because of the costs involved, of providing real treatment.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 750209, member: 18958"] This is great! I will only write one person's opinion, my own. If you could help him build on this huge, huge strength, this would be a gift to him and to others. There is no downside to love and to compassion and to care. With the technology I believe there is a great downside for him and for the rest of us. Are there activities, outlets, to support him to give to others...whether animals or humans? Volunteering, friendships, raising or training animals, such as service dogs, etc.? Or spirituality. I know you can't and shouldn't take away what motivates him and what he loves, the technology, but thinking about supporting his real gifts...could be a win win. This sounds fantastic. To me, the latter is the important thing. This is where the most damage can come. To him and to others. I believe the schoolwork will take care of itself. In the USA there is always a do over possible academically, even until the end of life. I am aware that in other countries, (I know some about the British system with exams that make it impossible to progress past a certain point, for some.) But the thing is, the most important thing for him, I believe, is self-mastery. The sense that he works as a person. And that is based in part upon self-control and integration of impulses. I think you are headed down the right path, making connections with people who have the knowledge and the treatment. As you and he gain more support, skills and knowledge, if it were me, I would downplay that which puts pressure on all of you. I know that is hard. I know it with myself. It's hard for me to give myself the basics, when I am aware I will be losing opportunities. But, I believe are sustained by nourishing the deepest things within us, as well as achievements. I am not fishing here to know where you are from, but I remember a mother posted here with a young child, a 5 year old, from Canada. And how desperately she sought resources for her child. And what there were, were only in Toronto, I think, and she lived in the Prairies, I think. It was so, so hard. In Canada it seems it was impossible to get treatment at all, without the diagnosis of Autism. But the Canadian national medical system would not give the diagnosis out, because of the costs involved, of providing real treatment. [/QUOTE]
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