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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 133572" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>I was just thinking- for SOME kids (not all) it might be too much to carry over punishment or discipline from a previous day into the next day. Starting off a day "in the red" can be a problem for many kids. I know I sure would have a hard time wanting to "happily" go off somewhere if I knew that I was starting off with a black cloud hanging over me from yesterday. </p><p></p><p>I also worry about discipline for behavior a child has no ability to control. If he is in withdrawl, or if his illness is such that he cannot control himself.....it seems like he is "suffering" double for first- being ill, and 2nd - haveing punishment realated to symptoms. And then feeling how that would make me feel? I myself, would have a hard time not acting out becuz I would be frustrated and or angry and then, even if something WAS in my control, I might be TOO frustrated or angry to cope. </p><p></p><p>I know this is a controversial issue...and it does depend on whether or not your child IS truly in control. And this is just MY opinion, but..if he truly cannot control it, it does not seem fair to be punished. If it is illness or treatment related---then possibly he is too ill to be AT school right now? Often people overlook that these behaviors can be a SYMPTOM of an illness.....just like a fever or vomiting is a symptom of an illness. </p><p></p><p>I am sorry it is so hard. I remember those days much more than I want to remember them. I can tell you, for us......things are very very different andmuch much better, now. We had more than our share, long hard hard years. I am sending good thoughts your way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 133572, member: 1697"] I was just thinking- for SOME kids (not all) it might be too much to carry over punishment or discipline from a previous day into the next day. Starting off a day "in the red" can be a problem for many kids. I know I sure would have a hard time wanting to "happily" go off somewhere if I knew that I was starting off with a black cloud hanging over me from yesterday. I also worry about discipline for behavior a child has no ability to control. If he is in withdrawl, or if his illness is such that he cannot control himself.....it seems like he is "suffering" double for first- being ill, and 2nd - haveing punishment realated to symptoms. And then feeling how that would make me feel? I myself, would have a hard time not acting out becuz I would be frustrated and or angry and then, even if something WAS in my control, I might be TOO frustrated or angry to cope. I know this is a controversial issue...and it does depend on whether or not your child IS truly in control. And this is just MY opinion, but..if he truly cannot control it, it does not seem fair to be punished. If it is illness or treatment related---then possibly he is too ill to be AT school right now? Often people overlook that these behaviors can be a SYMPTOM of an illness.....just like a fever or vomiting is a symptom of an illness. I am sorry it is so hard. I remember those days much more than I want to remember them. I can tell you, for us......things are very very different andmuch much better, now. We had more than our share, long hard hard years. I am sending good thoughts your way. [/QUOTE]
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