Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
General Discussions
The Watercooler
Tell me this isn't depression... with a little hypomania thrown in for good measure.
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 494061" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>LOL buddy, no offense taken! No, I'm not a zookeeper by trade, but I play one at home!</p><p></p><p>Thanks, CM. I'm glad to know I'm on the right track with this. </p><p></p><p>Yes, I have asked myself the "What am I DOING here?" question before. Well, I had some very bad co-dependent habits when I met and married him. And I did reach a breaking point and forced the marriage counseling issue, and because we got a therapist with her own baggage and because husband was not yet even CLOSE to being on appropriate medications at the time, we came very close to calling it quits. Or at least, by the sound of our arguments at the time it sure seemed headed that way.</p><p></p><p>I found some courage and drew a line in the sand which infuriated him but established a boundary. I started going to a group for co-dependents and continued with my own personal therapy (the marriage counseling was a huge flop) and medication and learned better skills. I'm not perfect yet, but I've come a LONG way and am much better able to advocate for MYSELF. </p><p></p><p>Then husband's seizure issues came to the fore and once he got on those medications things started to really turn around. He is nothing like the angry, obsessive person he used to be. He is MUCH more connected to his emotions and able to articulate them better instead of everything just getting shunted into the anger bin. I no longer have to walk on eggshells and we communicate much better then before. So I guess you could say I now have HOPE. Because I now see the man who I thought I married working his way out of the mess, and I believe that with improved medication he will continue to improve and so will our relationship.</p><p></p><p>I continue to get by one day at a time. But like I said, at least now I have hope.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 494061, member: 3444"] LOL buddy, no offense taken! No, I'm not a zookeeper by trade, but I play one at home! Thanks, CM. I'm glad to know I'm on the right track with this. Yes, I have asked myself the "What am I DOING here?" question before. Well, I had some very bad co-dependent habits when I met and married him. And I did reach a breaking point and forced the marriage counseling issue, and because we got a therapist with her own baggage and because husband was not yet even CLOSE to being on appropriate medications at the time, we came very close to calling it quits. Or at least, by the sound of our arguments at the time it sure seemed headed that way. I found some courage and drew a line in the sand which infuriated him but established a boundary. I started going to a group for co-dependents and continued with my own personal therapy (the marriage counseling was a huge flop) and medication and learned better skills. I'm not perfect yet, but I've come a LONG way and am much better able to advocate for MYSELF. Then husband's seizure issues came to the fore and once he got on those medications things started to really turn around. He is nothing like the angry, obsessive person he used to be. He is MUCH more connected to his emotions and able to articulate them better instead of everything just getting shunted into the anger bin. I no longer have to walk on eggshells and we communicate much better then before. So I guess you could say I now have HOPE. Because I now see the man who I thought I married working his way out of the mess, and I believe that with improved medication he will continue to improve and so will our relationship. I continue to get by one day at a time. But like I said, at least now I have hope. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
General Discussions
The Watercooler
Tell me this isn't depression... with a little hypomania thrown in for good measure.
Top