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<blockquote data-quote="Ivy" data-source="post: 375985"><p>Thanks to you both for responding. I feel better already just having been heard.</p><p></p><p>WipedOut (BOY do I get your username!)- today was day 2 and the more I get to know her, the more I think his teacher is mostly just information sharing. Today was MUCH better. Actually behavior-wise it was kind of worse; he left the cafeteria during lunch, and got a letter sent home about that. But his teacher, though she gave me another earful of everything he did wrong today, also gave me a lot of indications that she is trying to learn how to respond to him. She said she's going to adjust her discipline system to accommodate him and not punish things like verbal tics that are just involuntary autistic behaviors. And she's consulting the Easy Child staff (someone is in the classroom with him for 30 minutes to an hour a day, but the rest of the time he's without extra help beyond what the teacher and assistant can provide) about ways to teach him visually rather than expecting him to do a lot of listening, which fatigues him. He ALWAYS acts up during "circle time" and does well the rest of the day, she says. Once I really thought about that, it was obvious to me- circle time is when they're being "taught at" and it's probably 90% verbal.</p><p></p><p>I also gave permission for her to use parent volunteers when they are available to help keep him on task. The funding is not there for him to have a para-pro at all times (and I'm not convinced he actually needs one- things run smoothly at home most of the time, he just needs time to get used to the new school and classroom).</p><p></p><p>So I feel a lot more settled today but I am dismayed that all it took was one bad day for me to go down the rabbit hole and start thinking "what if he gets kicked out? what if he just can't fit in? what if he never cooperates in school again?" and that didn't take me anywhere good. I just gotta get a grip. I will practice taking each day as a new opportunity to respond better to his needs. Thank you again, so much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ivy, post: 375985"] Thanks to you both for responding. I feel better already just having been heard. WipedOut (BOY do I get your username!)- today was day 2 and the more I get to know her, the more I think his teacher is mostly just information sharing. Today was MUCH better. Actually behavior-wise it was kind of worse; he left the cafeteria during lunch, and got a letter sent home about that. But his teacher, though she gave me another earful of everything he did wrong today, also gave me a lot of indications that she is trying to learn how to respond to him. She said she's going to adjust her discipline system to accommodate him and not punish things like verbal tics that are just involuntary autistic behaviors. And she's consulting the Easy Child staff (someone is in the classroom with him for 30 minutes to an hour a day, but the rest of the time he's without extra help beyond what the teacher and assistant can provide) about ways to teach him visually rather than expecting him to do a lot of listening, which fatigues him. He ALWAYS acts up during "circle time" and does well the rest of the day, she says. Once I really thought about that, it was obvious to me- circle time is when they're being "taught at" and it's probably 90% verbal. I also gave permission for her to use parent volunteers when they are available to help keep him on task. The funding is not there for him to have a para-pro at all times (and I'm not convinced he actually needs one- things run smoothly at home most of the time, he just needs time to get used to the new school and classroom). So I feel a lot more settled today but I am dismayed that all it took was one bad day for me to go down the rabbit hole and start thinking "what if he gets kicked out? what if he just can't fit in? what if he never cooperates in school again?" and that didn't take me anywhere good. I just gotta get a grip. I will practice taking each day as a new opportunity to respond better to his needs. Thank you again, so much. [/QUOTE]
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