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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 599201" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Welcome, truebluetara.</p><p>Boy, do I know what you mean when you say that your son is smart and can have you running around in circles!</p><p>I have slowly learned to STOP the conversation and just say, "Because I said so."</p><p>He'll scream, "YOU LIED!" and it is so hard not to want to defend myself. But YOU are the mom and he is the kid. Just say that to him over and over again.</p><p>In regard to the "wrong" diagnosis, he actually was correctly but only partially diagnosis'ed. Autistic kids are typically ODD and ADHD and have sensory processing issues. So, now you've just put them all together and given them a new name.</p><p>What sorts of things set him off? Is he willing to discuss them? </p><p>One thing that's been very hard for us is that our difficult child looks so "normal" that certain teachers and people just expect him to behave normally, no matter how many 504 mtngs we've had, and they think he's just ticking them off deliberately. Sometimes, maybe he is, but most of the time, he just doesn't get it. For example, one teacher this yr got on his case because he was daydreaming. She said, "I'm going to call your mother." He said, "Okay, do that."</p><p>Sounds like a snotty 16-yr-old, but it's also very Aspie. You're going to call my mother? Nothing I can do about it. Fine. </p><p>Frustrating no matter which way you look at it. We spent an entire therapy session trying to explain to him how that looked from the outside. I think he gets it now.</p><p>In regard to Soc Svs, all you can do is memorize their names and which kind of coffee or tea they like and have it ready when they show up! Who knows, someday, you may need them. Gulp.</p><p>My son has threatened to call Soc Svs ... because I took away his phone. Or was it his iPod? I told him to go ahead. He never dialed. Of course, he didn't know the number, either. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 599201, member: 3419"] Welcome, truebluetara. Boy, do I know what you mean when you say that your son is smart and can have you running around in circles! I have slowly learned to STOP the conversation and just say, "Because I said so." He'll scream, "YOU LIED!" and it is so hard not to want to defend myself. But YOU are the mom and he is the kid. Just say that to him over and over again. In regard to the "wrong" diagnosis, he actually was correctly but only partially diagnosis'ed. Autistic kids are typically ODD and ADHD and have sensory processing issues. So, now you've just put them all together and given them a new name. What sorts of things set him off? Is he willing to discuss them? One thing that's been very hard for us is that our difficult child looks so "normal" that certain teachers and people just expect him to behave normally, no matter how many 504 mtngs we've had, and they think he's just ticking them off deliberately. Sometimes, maybe he is, but most of the time, he just doesn't get it. For example, one teacher this yr got on his case because he was daydreaming. She said, "I'm going to call your mother." He said, "Okay, do that." Sounds like a snotty 16-yr-old, but it's also very Aspie. You're going to call my mother? Nothing I can do about it. Fine. Frustrating no matter which way you look at it. We spent an entire therapy session trying to explain to him how that looked from the outside. I think he gets it now. In regard to Soc Svs, all you can do is memorize their names and which kind of coffee or tea they like and have it ready when they show up! Who knows, someday, you may need them. Gulp. My son has threatened to call Soc Svs ... because I took away his phone. Or was it his iPod? I told him to go ahead. He never dialed. Of course, he didn't know the number, either. ;) [/QUOTE]
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